Sex question...

[Stolen]

Okay I am 18, and have been doing PE for about 1 and a 1/2 now. Its been working great! and I love it, but that is all beside the point. I am uber scared at the moment, because although I have gained, I find myself not being able to do nothing with it. I have pretty much found the girl that completes me. You know, the girl who farts in front of you and you just laugh...I really love her, and like to please her both mentally and physically. The problem is everytime we are about to have sex, i get soft. Like right when I enter it gets soft. At first i thought maybe the condoms, where taking away from the sensation, but I masturbated with a condom on (just to see what would happen) and I got a good erection and kept it. Thats another funny thing...when I masturbate, I can usually getting 100 % hard pretty easy. So can you guys give me some info. on whats happeneing here? Should I think about taking viagra? Its going to be hard to come by for me >_< I really want to give my girl some penis :p

[Baseballer8]

Dude relax, its your nerves not your body that is making that happen. You are hyping yourself up about how perfect she is and then worrying about not performing well. Relax and let it flow, and if you need to don't even think about how she feels and just focus on banging the hell out of her :cool

['TheBugKahuna']

You can also try kegels; they strengthen your erection.

By the way, I think I know how you feel about your girl. It is very nice.

[Bobo]

It's all mental, dude, and the more often it happens the more You will be afraid of it happening again... it gets worse (been there, done that) unless You talk with the girl about it and deal with it. It would be good to give at least some explanation before she thinks You don't find her sexy enough. It's all quite normal for men with not much experience. Talk to her and take it slow and easy... more foreplay, less hurry.

[Clockers]

Don't masturbate for 2 or even 3 weeks then have sex with her you will be hard as a rock. :cool

[Spike]

Solve the problem by a process of elimination.

Try putting a paper bag over her head. :cool

[wern]

take viagra

[Shane_Bos]

Going with Spikes idea of process of elimination...

Ask her to lift the roles of fat out of the way to make it a better experience for the both of you. Cos lets face it, we're not all like Valk :D

[Clockers]

Solve the problem by a process of elimination.

Try putting a paper bag over her head. :cool



:lol:

[BIGOKE]

When someone starts a thread by saying they're 18. IT SOUNDS LIKE SOMEONE SHOULD GET OUT THE BANNING STICK AGAIN! :evil: :twisted:

[MagnumXL]

I used to suffer from this problem too... well shit i dont even know if im cured yet... i havent gotten laid since my birthday and even then i was kinda suffering.

[ArTee63]

Okay I am 18.. I have pretty much found the girl that completes me... Should I think about taking viagra?


:shock:

[Stolen]

WTF? I promise you i am 18, what kind of proof do you need? 'll be 19 come October. Yes I have found a girl that is right for me, we have been going out for a year now, and its been great. We arent all happy and stuff, we get into fights and shit, but it feels so good being with her that the fights always seem silly after awhile. I am talking out of ignorance though, so who knows. She may not be the one who completes me, but let me atleast keep the feeling without being made fun of. The only reason I brought up viagra was because its the most common known medictaion to fix this type of problem? Can I not ask questions? Please guys, I am being deadly serious here, and dont need people thinking I am younger then I am. I use to lurk this site all the time when I was 17, and I never posted cause I knew the rules, but I couldnt help but atleast try PE to see if it would work. So yes, i will admit it, a year ago I did lurk this site. Now I am old enough to post, and can expand and grow even alot more by asking questions. Thanks for the informative advice that has been given in this thread thus far. Thanks for also making fun of me, and teasing me just because I found a new stage of my life that has never occured to me before. Like i said it may be ingnorance, but it feels good and right for now, and I will let it be until/if I get hurt.

[Stolen]

Oh the reason I said I was 18, because I thought it might help you know my age. This sint noramlly suppose to happen to teenagers. 18 is a period of time where you should be able to get it up at any point right? Thats the only reason I gave my age. I bit information for you to think about while helping me. Geez..you guys assume a bit too much, but you guys are also informative and motivating all at the same time :p Bastards

[ArTee63]

My :shock: was not directed at your age. However, your adamancy towards the age issue does make me wonder. :?

No, my :shock: was directed at you asking if you should be taking an ED medication beacuse you have had a few difficult times getting your sailor up to attention. You are 18 for, Christ's sake. Short of some major medical problem (which I don't believe you suffer from), Viagra should be the farthest thing from your mind.

Take a break from sexual activity. No sex, no spanking the monkey. Give it a week or so and see if you have the same trouble. If so, see a urologist. Taking Viagra at 18 just sounds like a ridiculous thing to do.

As far as finding the girl that completes you, at 18...I doubt it. It's possible but highly unlikely. Shop around. There is a huge variety out there. Sample as many as you can. If for no other reason than to say you did.

[Bobo]

We're always joking around, and after You hang around here more You'll understand we mean nothing bad with it. It's a good skill in life: being able to smile and laugh at our problems too. The reason why some found Your post disturbing was the fact that someone that's only 18 years old is talking about taking viagra for erection problems! As You said, You have no difficulties being hard when masturbating, and that tells us that there's really nothing physically wrong with You -> medication would be a mistake. You're too nervous to perform well, and the only way to get over that is by taking care of the actual problem, not going around it with medication. Talk to Your girl about it, tell her You have problems performing because You're nervous and too inexperienced, take it slow with her... and if she's one of the good ones, she'll support You in this and You will overcome it together. How do I know? Because I had the same problem in my youth. Good luck, Sir!

[wern]

viagra = quick fix

need I say more?

Or don't wank for 3 weeks. We all have that problem. The first time and maybe second time will be the only times you'll hgave difficulty. After that you'll be good.
Oh you can also get tipsy, that will help calm you down as well.

[Shane_Bos]

We're always joking around, and after You hang around here more You'll understand we mean nothing bad with it.

Yeh, Bobo's a loser :D

[MagnumXL]

Bobo uses the force to stretch his penis to ungodly levels.

[BIGOKE]

And we've had masqueraders before. BTW viagra = old men with erection problems. Start taking it at 18 and you'll never have a natural erection again. Try this combo, porn, exercise, porn, escort services,porn etc. any combination you want. :twisted:

[Bobo]

Yeh, Bobo's a loser :D
I must kill You now.

[smooth]

It's not about viagra, it's not even about not jerking off for 3 months. It's all about being comfortable with the girl. My theory is that if you masterbate you treat it as a private act, the same as erections. You try to hide your erections or if you masterbate try to hide it from anyone else from seeing,etc. You are not use to having someone seeing you naked/or with erection, you still in that hide mode. Once you get comfortable then you will see there's no problem. Foreplay, foreplay foreplay. Have you rub on your dick, jerk you off, etc. Have her look at it, play wit it.

The fact you can get hard otherwise shows you need no medication or break from jerking off. You need to relax and get comfortable.

[ninja651]

yep, you shouldn't take viagra for your age. I used to be the same way when I met my girl. I couldn't get it up when I needed to, tell her to stroke it until it's hard. While she is stoking, rub her pussy and inmagine you banging the hell out of her. Now my girl don't even stoke it any more, she just blow the hell out of me.

[zwmusic]

I must kill You now.

Shit Shane! I would start running now if I were you, the man will track you down wearing Clockers hotpants and with thousands of bugs behind him...

[ownd]

Shit Shane! I would start running now if I were you, the man will track you down wearing Clockers hotpants and with thousands of bugs behind him...

LMFAO im getting a mental picture, with an army of bugs that he can command and sick on who ever he wants hahahah

[Bobo]

I'm the Lord of the Flies! (an excellent book btw...) :twisted:

http://images.amazon.com/images/P/0807209546.01.LZZZZZZZ.jpg

[zwmusic]

:lol:

[Valk]

You have good taste Bobo. I love that book.

[Bobo]

Yeah, a masterpiece. I just might read it again during the weekend...

[JimmyRiddle]

As other people have said, you are clearly building sex up to being something intimidating. And this is leading to a kind of stage fright.

Your fear of not keeping it up is leading to it not staying up. However, this also means that you have, as they say, nothing to fear but fear itself.

My advice would be to take the pressure away completely. Say to your girlfriend that tonight you are not going to have sex, but rather do everything but. Spend a while (a GOOD few hours) just kissing, toughing, exploring, safe in the knowledge that you are not going to have sex. Focus just on enjoying what you're doing, not worrying about what is going to happen, or seeing it as some sort of perlude to sex.

Then, maybe you'll get to the point where you're both so horny that you HAVE to do it.

This is how it should be. Sex is something that naturally happens between two people who are both very tuned on, rather than being some kind of challenge or test.

Good luck with it mate.

JR

[Bobo]

Good advice there, JimmyRiddle! :cool

[Valk]

Spend a while (a GOOD few hours) just kissing, toughing, exploring, safe in the knowledge that you are not going to have sex. Focus just on enjoying what you're doing, not worrying about what is going to happen, or seeing it as some sort of perlude to sex.


Great advice. Alot of times, I enjoy this part more then sex itself. Especially kissing. Real kissing (and not the blunt tongue-twisting thing most teens in clubs do) is the most erotic activity ever.
No, there is one thing even more erotic: Kissing while being nekkit. :puke:

[zwmusic]

Kissing while being nekkit. :puke:

?

Did you mean naked or kissing while being strangled with a necktie to increase erection level? :lol:

[Valk]

If you really knew me you would know immediately that it was the latter. :D :D

So I'm trying to become multi-orgasmic lately, but its damn hard.
Without using my hands (thus only kegeling) I cant seem to do it.
Using my hands (tight OK grip) is much better but it still isnt an orgasm.
Its more the exciting feeling that flows away.

[zwmusic]

I was just kidding. I could somehow grasp it. I hope you can achieve that. When you do, tell us about.

[Valk]

I knew you were kidding because I was kidding too. No kidding.

There should be more people that have achieved this. SPEAK UP!

[John Shaft]

There should be more people that have achieved this. SPEAK UP!

It's rough, I bought a book titled "The Multi-Orgasmic Male". I've done this only a few times and it was great. My problem seemed to be not releasing the sexual energy, which gave me big headaches and vivd thoughts. I'm sure others have different experiences.

John

[zwmusic]

My problem seemed to be not releasing the sexual energy, which gave me big headaches and vivd thoughts. I'm sure others have different experiences.

That's interesting. I think that most of us don't seem to be able to release our sexual energy as we should... would that be due to the fact that we are actually more repressed sexually than women (on the contrary that our still male influenced society believe)?

[ArTee63]

I'm the Lord of the Flies! (an excellent book btw...) :twisted:


Sucks to your Assmar!!!:lol:

[darkwarrior]

why don't you just call the geek squad, they can fix any problem?

[Bobo]

Sucks to your Assmar!!!:lol:
:lol: The fat kid piggy.

[Ruh Roh]

Okay I am 18, and have been doing PE for about 1 and a 1/2 now. Its been working great! and I love it, but that is all beside the point. I am uber scared at the moment, because although I have gained, I find myself not being able to do nothing with it. I have pretty much found the girl that completes me. You know, the girl who farts in front of you and you just laugh...I really love her, and like to please her both mentally and physically. The problem is everytime we are about to have sex, i get soft. Like right when I enter it gets soft. At first i thought maybe the condoms, where taking away from the sensation, but I masturbated with a condom on (just to see what would happen) and I got a good erection and kept it. Thats another funny thing...when I masturbate, I can usually getting 100 % hard pretty easy. So can you guys give me some info. on whats happeneing here? Should I think about taking viagra? Its going to be hard to come by for me >_< I really want to give my girl some penis :p

I had this problem with a girl I really liked before in the past, I think it is just nerves. It will get better in time.