Life

[G-Spot19]

I have to say, I was touched to see a thread asking where I was when i had been missing a few days. Touching to see. So I figured i will let you guys in on my life, something i have not done in a long time on here. Brace yourselves guys, this is going to be a long read, but I hope you can get through it all because any advice is appreciated.

First off, my family is shit. A bit before Christmas, my aunt suffered from a stroke followed by two mini strokes. She was hospitalized and began taking seizures. After a violent seizure, she fell into a deep coma that they did not think she would come out of. They warned us that if she did, she would probably have brain damage. So my family went to see her a couple times, but not much except my mother, my grandfather, and one of my uncles. i kept telling them that my grandmother would be so disappointed if she was still alive. They answered "I know" but did shit about it. When she came out of it, she was still in intensive care and spent the entire Holiday Season in the hospital paralyzed on her left side entirely.

My family rarely came to see her or even check on her except for the same three. She fell into depression and the dr's figured she would give up. Eventually my mom talked her into fighting and she got well enough to get placed into a physical therapy place. After being mistreated there, my mom got her out and back home near the end of January. My uncle that kept visiting tried taking care of her and my grandfather(who is in early stages of Alzheimer's it seems) along with my mom. My fat bitch of a retarded cousin got shit started between him and his ex wife and after threats to his life, he was forced to leave. My fat bitch retarded cousin was asked to help take care of her, but wouldnt. All my family continued making excuses and still do. The result, my mom who is 49 years old has to run her self to death taking care of them and still being a wife to my father.

It angers me when I call to check on her and she sounds so tired and wore down because of my family. This is the same family who found excuses not pay my grandmother's funeral expenses. Pathetic huh? So my aunt, who can barely walk has to rely on my mom and her father who can barely get up and go himself just to walk from the sofa to the chair, to bathe, or to use the bathroom. When she feels she is being a burden, she tries herself, falls and cuts or bruises herself. And what does my family do? Fucking nothing except be selfish pieces of shit! :evil::evil::evil::evil: Damn them. This is their sister and their aunt and my poor mom and grandfather. FUCK THEM FUCK THEM FUCK THEM!!!!!!!!!!!!

Recently, another of my uncles got out of his hell with his wife and has been helping, but the others find excuses to only visit her sparingly. Shit they all live in the same neighborhood pretty much. I am ashamed of them. Selfish bitches and Bastards. Especially my fat fucking retarded bitch of a cousin who caused all this by running off my uncle to begin with. FUCK HER FAT ASS TO HELL.

Then of course my job. I could write a book on it. Lets just say it sucks. Then my sister always getting treated like shit by her boyfriend and my former best friend. But she always goes back to him no matter what. They break up and she comes crying to me. Then mom comes crying to me about my sis and my aunt. Then my aunt comes crying to me( not that I mind, it just all builds up) My sis frustrates me because I know when she comes crying to me, nothing i say matters because she will go right back. Then he comes crying to me because we were such good friends. Then my girlfriend comes crying to me about her shitty life.

Good seguay to bring up that stupid cunt. She has so much drama it kills me. She is going to school in another state and lives with her Aunt there. She cant seem to find a job so she cant move out. Her aunt seems to make her life hell and her aunts husband makes sexual remarks to her. She gets so depressed and I worry about her too. But she still pisses me the fuck off.

Not long after we got together she called me her ex's name over the phone. It bothered me, but I got over it because we were new togehter and they had dated for a while. Still, i was pissed but I beat it down. Recently we was talking and she says "God, I need sex." I said "Yeah you do. Too bad your so many states away." She fucking replied, "Maybe if i wasnt such a bitch to the guys here, huh?" WHAT!!!!! DOES THAT FUCKING SOUND FISHY TO YOU? Hell it sounds to me like a confession. I went the fuck off and she said she doesnt know why she said it and she was half asleep and has never even thought about cheating because she loves me too much. FUCK THAT. We argued and she told me the situation was little and we need to get over it. Then she proceeded to laugh about it. BITCH. But for some reason, i continued it after she swore she had no idea why she said it.

On to the most recent bull shit. The fucking bitch sends me a pic of her hand covered in blood. I asked what the hell happened and she told me she took a knife and cut herself and it was bleeding that bad. I asked her why the fuck she would do something so fucking stupid and she told me she didnt know, she just did it. I asked if she was fucking crazy and she was dumb enough to ask if I was mad. FUCK YEAH I AM MAD!!! I was about to take a panic attack I was so upset. The worst part, after scaring the shit out of me, worrying me, and pissing me off at the same time, she tells me it was fake. The blood was fake, she never cut herself, and it was all a joke. I was furious. I cussed like never before and she tried calling. I hung up on her and told her not to talk to me. The bitch told me I was over reacting and it was just a joke. I must have sent her a hundred messages letting her know how mad I was and she can not understand why i am so pissed and wants me to forgive her.

I know what I am going to do, I just wanna know what you guys think. Like i said, after getting my throat slit and shit, this is all just an annoyance, but its getting to be a bigger pain in the ass than I want to deal with. Fuck my family, Fuck the other shit. What do you guys think I should do about my girl friend. Sorry about the long ass post. Just had to get all that off my chest.

[w3]

Hey man, you've been through all my long ass posts, so I'm at the very least obligated to deal with yours!

Your family seems like shit, and as people get older, certain things are harder for them to repair. People are stuck in their own lifes, their own personal hells.
So even if a close family members encounter with death doesn't wake them the fuck up, what will?
I'm sorry to hear about all this.

Have you told them what shitbags they are?

Even though you say you don't mind that all the people open up to you, it seems to have become a burden. You got your own problems to deal with, maybe take care of all that first, and then listen to the problems of your closest ones.

Your girlfriend for example, seems to me you should just dump her.
What she said about 'not being such a bitch to all the guys here heh' is just unacceptable. As you, I would be mad ass hell. And these days I would probably break up after a comment like that immediately.
The shit will get deeper, since you live apart.
I see no good way out of that, and I guess neither do you.
Unless you are moving there? I wouldn't, if she messes around with cutting herself jokes and stuff, seems like an unstable person..

Does she know what you are going through? And still does this shit?

I wish you nothing but strenght to carry on.
And what did you say about your throat getting slit? I seem to have missed something important when a while back?

[Clockers]

It depends' if you truly love her then you should go see her if you have the time & money.. I think she's doing this shit out of love, i know it sounds weird but true!

I also think she wants you to be a little more jealous of her.. :cool

[G-Spot19]

Yeah she knows all i am going through, and I thought i was falling for her, but I dont now. She has always gotten attention from me and I have shown jealousy when required or let her know I dont blame the guy because she is so hot. I dunno. I cant deal with childish shit like that.

[Tiger_Penis]

Listen, G, I am sorry to hear all of that. First of all don't feel embarrassed about your family. Everyone has shity relatives, it sounds like you got the Lion's share but don't think you are the only one.

You already know what your family needs to do, step up and help out. But getting them to do it is a whole nother thing. Maybe try shaming them, or just talking. Not sure that would work, but you gotta pull out all the stops. Try anything.

Your girlfriend. She sounds childish. Do you think she is just saying those things and doing those things to get a rise out of you? Some girls like to just cause drama because they don't know how to operate in a world without it. I am quick to cut a girl loose if I think she is not worth it. You being a bigger pimp than I am should do the same thing. There is no changing people.

[The_Scientist]

Yeah G, It feels good just to type shit out here, and get it off your chest. I find it also helps me think about things more logically too. You know we're always here to listen. :hug:

On the family thing, that is such a shitty thing, and it's also so common. With so many elderly people now living so long because of modern medicine we find out more about ourselves as a society than we ever wanted to. People avoiding problems like that because they don't want to deal with the fact that they are helpless to do anything about it, because dealing with that helplessness sucks. So, they leave the elderly to die alone and mistreated. At least she has some people to take care of her it seems, and is not completely alone.

If it's any solace know that the people who run away now have to deal with it every night when they lie in bed before they sleep, and where as you can say to yourself I did something about it, I helped. They can only say, "I was a coward." And that will hang with them forever. It is impossible to feel good about yourself running from your problems.

About your girlfriend, fuck that. Really. Or rather don't fuck it. Whichever one ends with you ending the relationship.

Anything that dramatic, with that much craziness, and attention seeking will just drain you. I mean, a girlfriend should be someone that you can confide in, I mean when she has hard times of course she will confide in you and maybe take a bit of your soul, but then it's needed for you to give it, and most of the time you feel better for doing so. But, in this case, when it's just for fun/drama/because she's a crazy bitch, no. If she can't see that at this point in your life with so much other shit, what you would love to have is someone fun, but serious who is steady and can comfort you then why would you want to be with her obviously you're not a match. Or if she recognizes it and still does this shit, then she is just a bitch so fuck that.

All in all, there's only one thing here that you can do anything about and that's your gf. Everything else you just have to deal with the pain of. Come here and talk about it, I mean I'm here most everyday I'll offer all of the kind words and advice that I can. You're a good guy, remember that.

This is going to sound so cliche, but it actually happened to me, and it is so true that I don't mind writing it. The other day me and my roommate went out to the store and on our way up there it started raining hard as hell, and he was nervous and wanted to stop, but I told him no, that there was no reason to be, by pressing into the storm we would come out sooner. And so we did and the heavy rain only lasted 5 minutes or so, and then we saw the most beautiful rainbow. Life is exactly like that, it's normal and then it starts raining like a bitch and if you persevere and press on, then you can take comfort in knowing that you are a good person and a man. And then life becomes normal again, only it is better because you have dealt with shit and come out on top. It's an affirmation that you are a strong person, and a real man. So, do what you can about things that you can do something about, and try not to worry about everything else, and most importantly try to just take time every day to remind yourself of all this shit, and that the world is a fundamentally good place. Just look at a tree everyday or something to remind yourself that the world is indeed a good place.

Best of luck man, We'll be here if you need us. :hug:

[Torpedo]

That was beautiful, Scientist.

G, I can definitely relate to what you're going through with your relatives. For the past few years, my situation has been almost identical. And so I disagree with what some of these guys have said. Some people in this world cannot be reasoned with. If they're that screwed up, then you shouldn't even try it. You'll only wear yourself out. Do what you can to help your relatives that are in need, and to hell with the rest of them.

And as for your girlfriend, she sounds depressed to me. I don't know what to think about the comment about being a bitch to the local guys. Honestly, it really could have been a joke or just some stupid thing she said when she was tired. Maybe it makes her feel special when you get jealous. If you don't think that she would actually cheat on you, then don't worry about it.

The thing with the blood sounds like a desperate cry for attention from you. Even though it's hard, sometimes the best way to handle these situations is NOT to ask why she isn't doing more to help YOU. Maybe you should ask yourself what you could be doing to help her. There's obviously something going on with her. And I'm not saying that you've done anything wrong. But sometimes you really just have to step up and be the man in the relationship, for her sake. You're expected to be the stronger one here.

If all this drama is too much for you to handle, and she's not worth it,then break it off. Only you can decide whether she's worth the trouble or not.

[PepeLePew]

I'm a little late on this G, but sorry to hear about all the shitty stuff you
are going through. These guys gave some great responses already.

All I can say is though it may be against what some others may think...I
suggest you keep doing what you can to help your true loved ones the
best you can until no more will do or until unforunately they pass away,
then get yourself out of there...away from the drama, start a new refreshing
life after you've done everything possible that you could have done...whether
that be moving across states or even exploring a new country, going to
grad school...anything. Do what makes you happy, that is the most important
thing, and not just being selfish happy and not helping your love ones because
then you obviously won't truly be happy when it is always on your mind.
But you are a good sole, I know you will do the right thing.

As for your girlfriend, everyone was dead on. She sounds like she does
thinngs on purpose despite knowing it will hurt you...sounds like she
loves being evil to you even if it hurts and will continue doing this. This
isn't true love...and despite how hot she may be drop her, there are
billions of women walking to earth. You'll find one even better.

[JaredK]

This may be what you were going to do in the first place but I would focus on the things that actually matter most.

Your parents, not things that you don't have any control over, that are family-related. Focus on what you can do by yourself.

Your job, which may be shitty, is a management position in a time of economic depression.

Your future, you must accept that you are a cool person. And also as a good person......"friends, girlfriends and even some family members...." who are negative and FUBAR (you know what I mean) are EXTREMELY EXPENDABLE. You don't HAVE to make yourself WANT to be with people who don't add anything to life

(let alone make an effort to.....)

start to take away things from your life. If the decision to cut ties to move forward legitimately humbles them, you can accept their bullshit as a moment in time and move forward. however, I would look for different normal friends, drop this chick, I would tell family members how you feel and then not worry about anything other than your parents, your job, your future and a more positive existence (I won't throw the H-word out there yet:hug::lol::twisted::cool)

In summary just be you and get rid of all this negativity that you have more control over than think because you can move on to better things and they simply can not.

[Dr. P-Evil]

G- From what i know about you over the past year, you take after your mom for sure. there's only hand full of people in this world for whom the buck stops. they are the quiet heros of the world who make shit happen selflessly. Let her know she's the reason there's hope in this world. sad to say, you have that in you as well. you know, you have a project and most people flake, but you're one of the people who sees it through. weddings, school projects, whatever. All you can do is God's work when it's called upon you to do it.

two- your ex best friend and sister are like everybody else. they want to fix something broken in a relationship for the drama rather than find what's right for them and they don't know it. don't mortgage your happiness with your sisters. if she doesn't want to listen, you just be there to let her vent and look out for when you have to step in and break your friend's fucking nose if he gets out of line with her (gets her an STD, hits her, stiffs her with a large joint credit card bill, etc)

your g/f is nutty. she's basically trying to make you jealous. the suicide fake....that's not funny. she's an attention hog and i'm assuming she says dumb shit like that because she wants to have the control since she probably have a lot of guys under her thumb. stick with your game plan and play it cool because as soon as you play into that, you're out cause the challenge is gone. you have to decide if she's really fucked up or just insecure .

she's gonna keep trying to do stupid shit to get you jealous unless you call her out and tell her you're in control. for example, she'll go out and party with guys and one day she'll say, oh he tried to kiss me, etc. just tell her right now, You dig her for who she is because her looks don't matter over the phone, but she's gotta know that you don't get jealous because you get just as much attention from girls as she does from guys. You don't need to be with her as much you want to be with her. so she needs stop doing crazy shit. if she straightens out, stick with her, she may just be a little immature right now. if she still keeps pulling this shit, just leave her ass. you can find love close by.

[Steve Madden]

Go with your gut, sir. Like you said to start, you already know what you're going to. :wink:

We're here for you, buddy.

[JaredK]

I could imagine Hasselhoff saying that

[G-Spot19]

Well first Its things like this that has kept me here all these years. You guys are great and appreciate all your posts.

To W3, the throat slit happened a few years back. The short version is that my ex fiance was raped. The son of a bitch who did it came up to me while i was shooting pool the next week. The previous week I had busted his best friends skull open and left him to bleed to death, dont worry he lived. In retaliation, the rapist put a knife to my throat, told me what he did to her, bragged that i could do nothing about it and then slit my throat and walked away. Sucked, but I lived. Caused a big shit storm though.

As far as the control shit, yeah I get that from her. She always wanted to be in control and bossy. Said things like why cant i be the boss and stupid shit like that. I think when you fake suicide attempts you push it a little too far for my taste. Plus she knows all the shit i am going through and knows that the shit will hurt me. I have told her of my past and the suicide attempts and how it made me mad as hell with my ex fiance. I dunno what is up with her, nor do I care. I am done. I already knew i would break up with her, just nice to see conformation a lot of you guys feel the same. I just cant get over her doing this and then telling me it was little and i should just get over it. As far as the other shit, thats what gives me my lyrics and music. Im sure i ll write a song about her being fucked up lol

You guys are great. Your posts were awesome and I love that you all had such kind words. You truly are my friends and i am grateful for you guys and appreciate you so much. So many beautiful and touching posts. A hug to you all :hug:

[PepeLePew]

Good decision man! A good man to follow!

[The_Scientist]

Hey G. I found the perfect girl for you to rebound with, not only is she hot, she's also famous!!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OE2l6CPna4M
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[PepeLePew]

That video looks like it was back in the 70's. :puke:

[The_Scientist]

Yeah, it's definitely one of the worst things I have ever seen/heard in my entire life.

[Torpedo]

I liked it! :mrgreen

[G-Spot19]

That was awful. She looked like she really thought she was good :lol:
Great hair :lol:

[Clockers]

It was bad! :lol:

[G-Spot19]

That was understatement :lol::lol::lol:

[PepeLePew]

How did the breakup go G? How did you respond & take it?

[G-Spot19]

She keeps calling me and leaving voice messages. Maybe she will get it soon that I am not talking to her anymore.

[PepeLePew]

The silent kill I see... :cool :wink:

[G-Spot19]

I told her it was over, she just wont leave me alone.

[PepeLePew]

Word, she wants to bad. Did you give her the reasons why...if so bit she
was making excuses and lots of sorry's.

Overall, she is messed up for you man, you made the right choice.

[G-Spot19]

Yeah I think she needs a straight jacket