GF only wants me to cum?

[LazyPanda]

hey guys, im new to cheeky cherry(well been on for bout a couple months)... anyways, yall are the first group of guys i feel like i can tell this.. so here it goes:
I been with my girlfriend for almost nine months now.. we are both 18 and basically my "problem" is that i havent gotten her to orgasm. now this wouldnt relaly phase me if i hadnt been with other girls.. but i have been with two other virgins and others, and i have gotten like most of them to cum and orgasm. i have gotten my gf now to cum but i dont think she has had an orgasm yet, i mean im pretty sure we would both no if she had one right? ususally some muscle spasm, etc. anyways, the other problem is that, im down with stimulation, i mean i would eat a girl out forever(i actually like doing, it turns me on a lot), but anyways, she just wants me to cum. and she says that me cuming makes her really happy. but i want her to have the experience too , she has never had an orgasm before and i just think like it would b great for her (and plus its knawin away at my ego haha). Also, as far as her clit. goes, i can stimulate it, but only indirectly(such as rubbing ), if i touch it directly, she says that its too intense, but im wondering perhaps if i work up from indirect stimulation tno driect, i think i could get it to work? what yall think, have any of u guys been in a similiar situation? oh and also, its not a preejaculation problem, i have done it for up to two hours before, but she seems to get bored after about 20 mins and says she really wants me to cum. i know im just typin a lot now lol. but if u read to this point, i hope u can read teh rest =). anyways, the other thing is that she just told me that i try to switch positions too much and that if i stayed in the same position, she would orgasm she thinks.. and it is true, i alwys switch positions like every 5-10 minutes so i guess she must get turned off by takin the time to switch positions.
thanks guys,
my experience with CC has been great so far =) .. if any of yall have advice or similiiar stories to tell about how a girl jsut wouldnt orgasm, please do tell haha

[zwmusic]

Don't switch positions then. If you really want her to orgasm start by listening to her.

[w3]

I agree with zw, just listen to her.
And pay close attention to her body languange as you are DOING her.

.. and oh, of course she wants you to cum, just like you want her to cum.
It feels very good to see someone you love get that explosion of feelgood, it's a rush.
But it's not comparable to an orgasm, and if she's never had one, she doesn't know what she's missing, and is just happy when you get to cum.

But do ask her, if she has had an orgasm doing 'solo'.
And if she is willing to masturbate in front of you.
Maybe she needs this final barrier lifted off, before she can fully bloom. If you know what I mean.

And as a final word, explore. Try everything. Be BRAVE.
Chicks digg confidence, EVEN IN BED.

[The Assman]

Hey i had the same problem a while back...some girls can orgasm like no problem and some will take time...it's all about how she knows her body and how she is comfortable with it....no need to rush her, but try sumthing new everytime, sumthin small. Ask her wat feels best, wat she likes and where she wants it. She can do the same to u...its a fun lil game and plus she will have her orgasm in no time!

[bigwillystyle]

Buy her a toy and tell her to try do it herself, if she cant make herself cum then your chances of doing it are pretty damn slim.
Not all girls can cum/orgasm anyway.
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[LazyPanda]

wow thanks a lot guys. yea i def. think listening to her and trying new shit is the best thing i can do right now. im seeing her this friday so hopefully ill get to try all this good stuff haha. the reason for that is that we are kind of in a long distance relatoinship... she goes to college 4 hours away in new york. we went to highschool together, we really fell in love and it was a shame we had to leave each other (distnace wise at least), but, i see her about every 3 weeks(at the least) and shes going to be home for more than a month in a couple weeks!, so yea i will def have to try all this good stuff haha. im not sure if we will stay together forever or w/e , i know im young but for now, i know i want to stay with her =)... thanks for allt he advice and having the patience to read all my long posts!

[zwmusic]

Make sure you wear condoms. :cool

[LazyPanda]

haha of course man!

[KingCock]

Hey man,

Im gonna give you my honest opinion since you asked for it. The only reason she wants you to come is so she doesn't have to have anymore crappy sex.

Don't beat yourself about it. Well maybe just a little bit. Its good if you are, because that means you want to fix it.

Do you want to fix it?

Do you want her to orgasm soo many times that her body will shudder and her eyes will roll to the back of her head? Do you want her to chase after you for sex and have sex with you not just every night but atleast a few times per day?

Well it can be done :D

You will get an amazing pleasure just from seeing the look in her eye and knowing you are an AMAZING lover.

By the way, if she thinks she had a orgasm, that means she didnt have one lol.

The only way you can get better is to start gathering resources. By that I mean get ebooks, look on the net, listen to some audio programs on specifically giving a woman an orgasm.

My recommendations

1) Lee Jenkins - Female Orgasm Black Book (Can be downloaded from a torrents website; buy it if you got the money - because its worth it)
2) Go to menshealth.com - look throught their sex articles
3) Just go on google and start searching for things like "Giving woman orgasms" "How to give mindblowing oral sex" "How to give a woman an orgasm"

Its a journey and you have just started your quest.

Good Luck to you and post back your discoveries and the "News"

P.S. Im going to start a thread about giving woman pleasure - and it should have the whole community's views and discussions :D - How great is that?

At the end of the day Im only PEing so I can be the Sultan of Sex ;)

[KingCock]

BigWillyStyle,

What do you mean not all woman can orgasm??

If they didn't then why would they have sex?

I mean lets say you had sex every night and you could not never orgasm - would you want to have sex?

Sure you would do it a few times, but you wouldn't enjoy it and look forward to it.

All women can have orgams (vaginal and clitoral) during sex but only with a GREAT lover.

If your a crappy lover who doesn't know what your doing, then its a given that she wont orgasm.

But gentleman its our job to make our women orgasm!

Thats why we are called MEN.

Come on lets do our job!

Might I add, its a FUN job and I LOVE doing it :D

[Jelqster]

Hey man,

Im gonna give you my honest opinion since you asked for it. The only reason she wants you to come is so she doesn't have to have anymore crappy sex.

Don't beat yourself about it. Well maybe just a little bit. Its good if you are, because that means you want to fix it.

Do you want to fix it?

Do you want her to orgasm soo many times that her body will shudder and her eyes will roll to the back of her head? Do you want her to chase after you for sex and have sex with you not just every night but atleast a few times per day?

Well it can be done :D

You will get an amazing pleasure just from seeing the look in her eye and knowing you are an AMAZING lover.

By the way, if she thinks she had a orgasm, that means she didnt have one lol.

The only way you can get better is to start gathering resources. By that I mean get ebooks, look on the net, listen to some audio programs on specifically giving a woman an orgasm.

My recommendations

1) Lee Jenkins - Female Orgasm Black Book (Can be downloaded from a torrents website; buy it if you got the money - because its worth it)
2) Go to menshealth.com - look throught their sex articles
3) Just go on google and start searching for things like "Giving woman orgasms" "How to give mindblowing oral sex" "How to give a woman an orgasm"

Its a journey and you have just started your quest.

Good Luck to you and post back your discoveries and the "News"

P.S. Im going to start a thread about giving woman pleasure - and it should have the whole community's views and discussions :D - How great is that?

At the end of the day Im only PEing so I can be the Sultan of Sex ;)


I gotta say you come across very confident, Are you very successfull in bed? We have the same sort of size penis, so I would like to know about some of your experiences?

[w3]

KingCock you seem like a great guy who just wants to help, and don't take what I'm about to say as an attack.

Yes, you've read about giving women pleasure. But with that second post of yours, it seems like you haven't really done it too many times?

There are women out there who really cannot orgasm, mostly it is because of lack of trust in her partner, past bad experiences and stuff like that.
And there is really a group of women out there who are incapable of orgasms, because of physical/severe mental flaws.

Someone might have her nerves fucked up. Somebody might have not developed nerve endings there at all.
Someone feels PAIN when they are stimulated, even when they've been married for 20 years and LOVE and TRUST their partners.
Even professionals don't know what to do in some cases.

But I guess if they had sex with you, they would be cured?
Are you really saying that there hasn't been a woman (within the HUNDREDS of women you've fucked) who didn't come on the first time you had sex?
If so, then you are either one lucky fellow (not running into any flawed diamonds), or midas of sex, turning every woman into orgasmic golden statues. :lol:

And about that having sex without orgasms..
How can we men answer your question?
The female sexual organ as a whole is a LOT more sensitive than ours, what if just plain old stimulus of their organs feels as intense as an normal orgasm to us?
There are women out there who enjoy sex without orgasm, they like the stimulus, in the same way I love a looooong blowjob.

And as you said yourself, you love giving orgasms to women.
Well you know what? Women love giving us orgasms, and if a woman loves a man more than anything else in the world. She will give her man orgasms until the day they die without getting one herself.

Women, they work in a very different way than us. So don't try to compare us to them in a straightforward manner like that.

Man I love the confidence, but c'mon, there's more to research for you out there. :wink:

[JaredK]

:lol: midas of sex

Gives the midas touch a whole other meaning:twisted::saint:

[KingCock]

Jelqster,

Thank you for your compliment.

By successful, do you mean can I make a girl have multiple orgasms and tell me after that I’m a Sex God?

Well then Jelqster I Definitely believe I’m successful then.

You ask about my experience. I’m going to tell you something that will blow your mind.

Experience does not equal great lover. It doesn't matter if you have had sex a 1000 times, it does not mean your a great lover (you could be, if you learn from the experiences).

To be a great lover you must have the knowledge. Let me repeat that to be a great lover you must have the KNOWLEDGE.

You don’t need a lot of experience to be a great lover. You just need to know:

1) What to do
2) How to do it
3) Know if what your doing is working

I don't have that much experience. But what I do have is a lot of knowledge, and I have a lot of quality sex.

And you mentioned penis size in your post. Okay this comment will be controversial to this site.

Penis size does not matter.

It helps, buts its not of great importance.

If you know how to use it and know how to stimulate a girl with it properly, then she will orgasm, even if your only 4 inches long.

Its just a tool in your tool box of love making.

Try this, I know us guys like having instant gratification. When your having sex with a girl, and your fucking her from the back, but your palm up on her belly button. Now gently put some pressure on that spot. Keep increasing, till you hear her MOAN! And for me within a minute the girl cums.

Now let me tell you the basic science behind this. When your pushing up on her belly button, what your doing is making her G spot (a very sensitive spot for females) come in contact with your penis. The more contact the more pleasurable it is for the girl.

Now all you guys go try it out, with your GF, wife, fuck buddy, and hey if you don’t have someone to fuck right now, remember the technique so when you need it you can use it.

Hope that helps :)
KingCock

[G-Spot19]

Im going to agree with W3 that you seem like you only want to help, but honestly you came off as a bit offensive and not as knowledgeable as you may think. What was said about women and orgasms is very true. Some women cant do it. Some feel pain from clitoral stimulation. Some dont like, nor will get off from G-Spot stimulation. Some hold back from orgasm, have no idea how it feels, and still enjoy sex. I have got girls off and then they feel like shit if I didnt get off. Made them feel they were not good enough for me, believe it or not. A lot of girls want to make us cum hard just like we want them to for their own self fullfillment. It makes them feel better knowing they can get us off. That is a fact. From reading your post i could tell you was young or somewhat in-experienced. With experience you would know that no book holds the secret to pleasing all women. The only way to find out for sure what gets a certain woman going the most is to find out from her or luck into it. What works on one woman will not work on them all. I like what you said about penis size not being as important to women as we think. I been saying that for a long time, but to a lot of men, they simply can't feel the confidence without the size. They feel shame about it the same as a fat man may feel about his body or something like that. I also dont want you to feel this as an attack, but a bit of advice. It is very good to have knowledge, but experience is truly the only way to perfection. You can read all you want but it does not mean you can perform all you read right out of the box. You gotta practice and work on it. I WILL TELL YOU GUYS THE TRUTH TO FIND OUT HOW TO GET YOUR GIRL OFF...ASK HER!

[KingCock]

W3,

Yes your right I haven't been with many woman sexually. I have only had sex with one girl. Yes ONE girl.

But I have had sex with her over 200 times.

Does that mean I can't contribute any information? I don't think so, sure experience is important. But like my previous post said, KNOWLEDGE is more important.

To clarify, I’m not saying if you KNOW how to make a girl orgasm your a great lover. To be a great lover you need to integrate that knowledge into action.

If you just know but haven't tried it's only potential knowledge. I practice what I learn and keep what works.

Next point in your post.

Yes, your absolutely right some woman just cannot physically orgasm. Whether its mental issues or physical issues.

BUT, there are ways around it. What I’m going to say, is really intense and it cant just be applied over night (unless your really determined). You can give any woman an orgasm through hypnosis. Its all in the head and if you want to try it you need to have allot of knowledge about this topic.

This book "David Shade's Manual" covers the whole topic from A to Z. (You can download this eBook from torrents; but if you can buy it, buy it, because the author put some serious work in to it)

ALSO, there needs to be TRUST and RESPECT in order for a woman to cum.

Now to your next point.

Your right, a woman's sexual organs is a whole lot more sensitive than ours.

Your right again that woman do LOVE the stimulus of sex.

They love it just as we love a good blow job.

But lets say you had an amazing blow job, but you just couldn't cum. At first you wouldn't mind too much (maybe you would). And lets say this happens EVERY TIME you have sex. You get an amazing blow job which feels so great but you just can't get off. Lets say that happens 10 times, wait 20 times, wait 50 times, wait 100 times.

What’s happening is your jus getting teased, but the tease does not finish what it was suppose to do and eventually all you get from sex is just a big tease, without you getting fulfilled.

Woman love foreplay, they love it, they want guys to spend more than 20 minutes on foreplay. Foreplay is mainly teasing, and pleasing.

But they love getting off, after foreplay. Have you ever looked in a girl's eyes after she just cumed. I mean FUCK I wish I had an orgasm like that.

If you tease your girl really well, and then make her cum, she will want to FUCK you the next day and the next. Because she loves it.

Woman are more sexual than guys. Much more!!

You know what the sad thing is 30% of woman have never had an orgasm. (I mean lets just say 10% of woman cant physically orgasm because of nerves or mental issues, that still leaves 20% of woman who cant have an orgasm)

Let me give you a experiment I want you to try W3:

Ask your girl to give you a blow job before you stimulate her. She will at best give you a moderately okay one (there is exceptions like if you gave her awesome sex the night before).

Then tell her to give you a blow job after you made her cum 3 times.

What do you think is going to be the result?

Il tell you, she is going to give you the most AMAZING blow job ever. She will be sucking your dick like there is an antidote in it that will save her life.

What I’m saying is very general and its applies to the majority of woman, and there are always going to be exceptions to the rule.

KingCock

[KingCock]

GSPOT 19

Hey that’s right some girls do hold back, and some girls find it painful.

And I agree girls want us to cum as well, even better if we cum the same time as them. Its like how we feel when we cum but she doesnt.

Your right every girl is different, and every pussy is different.

Gspot19 if the girls know what makes her cum, then by all means she knows more than us and any book. But a lot of woman don’t know what makes them cum. If they do, that’s GREAT, and Im sure every guy wants to know.

Exactly penis size is just a confidence issue.

And Gspot19 Im not saying just read and read. What im saying is if there is a problem, read about it so you can fix it and then use it.

And yes practice makes perfect :)

Fellas, listen up and follow Gspot19's advice, because its one that has no wrong answer. But if she doesn't know how, then go read and increase your knowledge.

KingCock

[G-Spot19]

W3,

Yes your right I haven't been with many woman sexually. I have only had sex with one girl. Yes ONE girl.




Thats the thing I was saying. Try what you do with her wih another girl and it simply may not work. A lot, A LOT, of girls dont like foreplay as much as you may think. Some just want to fuck. Now to your point about the blowjob and not cumming, yes to us its not fullfilling but to women sex is more. Whores want an orgasm, very true. But to most women, the sex is about the emotion behind it and the love or attraction to the guy. I know a girl who has never had an orgasm but loves sex and she is 26 years old. Women are not so shallow as we are when it comes to such things. I dont want you to feel dissed, because i am not intending to. I just want to enlighten you to the facts you find with experience with many different women. You say there is always an exception to the rule, allow me to correct that. When it comes to sex and women, there is no rule because each and every one is different.

[G-Spot19]

Dude, not so formal. Call me G. Were talking sex like men bro. To me, that makes us buddy's. :wink: I also respect how you take a different opinion so well and I do agree with what you say now that you add that nice clarification. I like how you handled this so much, i give ya reps. Props bro! :cool

[KingCock]

Hey G,

I liked what you said and how you said it.

I haven't taken any offense from what you have said, in fact I learned some stuff from you :)

Im still on my journey and I got alot more to go.

BTW, I see your PE stats. Very impressive. Can you share how you got to 8"?

KingCock

[w3]

A lot of text there mate. And it just seems you're throwing me back all the stuff I just told you.. Damn you mr. Politic. :wink: :lol:
I don't have a lot of time right now, since I'm getting ready to go to work.
But, I'll try to tackle the things here quick;

So it seems I was right. And yes, of course you can give out advice, but I immediately saw through it. And that can't be good right?
You do give out some good pointers, but the reason I replied to your post was because it was just too "narrow", it was too much like the fairyland your parents make you believe you live in when you were young.
If you know what I mean.

Yes technique does go a long way. But there is that "fourth dimension" in addition to size and technique.
What in my mind makes a great lover, and this is something every girl has agreed on so far after I've talked to them for awhile;
It's not the technique, it's not the size.
It's how you set the mood.
How you make her melt with your words, how you make her set on fire with your gaze.
It's about confidence, from the first Hi to the last OH MY.

We are rambling on into a new direction right now.. sorry.. BUT;
This can also happen with two total virgins, who have no confidence in life or bed at all, if their chemistry fits right.
And this brings me to another thought, some people just have a more universal chemistry, some people click better with others universally.
I can't really explain how to "set the mood" more accurately than what I just did, because for me it all comes naturally.
I guess in the end it's all about listening, watching. Seeing what makes her tick, feeling it.

This hypnosis thing, well, that's somewhat true.
Hypnosis will not work on someone who doesn't believe in it.
If someone has very severe physical problem with her orgasms, and that has turned into a very severe mental problem also, I believe that the hypnosis will not work, since the person might just not have any hope left.

Hypnosis will work on someone who still has hope. At the end of the day, some are just lost causes.

And the next thing here,
Yes, if I were given a blowjob thousand times without orgasm, I would be pissed.
But as I said before, WOMEN ARE DIFFERENT.
Why are you at first agreeing with me and then saying something completely opposite?
Your example doesn't work. I already told you how womens organs are different, and they experience basic stimulus more intensevely than we.
So someone who hasn't ever had an orgasm, sex shouldn't be a problem, they don't know of anything better.

I know you will now start to try and turn this back on me again, with something like "what if they can orgasm manually?".
Well, compare your hand to the feel of a pussy, feel of sex.
I'd much rather not cum during sex than during masturbation.

I know how that works.
But you know what works the best, stimulating her when she gives you a blowjob. Try that on your part. :wink:
And about that trying to get a girl give me a blowjob after 3 orgasms, fuck no. That would be one boring bj, mostly the girls are too tired to do anything after 3 orgasms. Maybe yours isn't, but let me tell you, most women would be.

Don't be offended. I'm still not attacking you, just trying to perhaps teach you a thing or two.

[G-Spot19]

Hey G,

I liked what you said and how you said it.

I haven't taken any offense from what you have said, in fact I learned some stuff from you :)

Im still on my journey and I got alot more to go.

BTW, I see your PE stats. Very impressive. Can you share how you got to 8"?

KingCock

Sure bro. Just click "The Burger Flipper" under my avatar and you will be sent to my diary. There is also a link in there that will take you to my diary on the old boards where it all got started. Peace :cool

[Steve Madden]

The last few girls I've been with have all been quick to orgasm. I take forever, so normally she's come two or three times before I get there, and sometimes I still don't. If it's a short session I almost never do, and that seems to concern them sometimes. I really don't mind, I just really like having sex. Nothing beats a girl who creams on a dime; I think it's kind of cute.

[G-Spot19]

I agree. Ego boost :cool

[Brent]

Any advice is good advice for guys with this problem. But I do agree that KingCock's first post was a little offensive.

I've only been with seven women in my life and all but one were able to have orgasms. The one who couldn't have them had a very very hard time even giving herself one. So for a while it busted my ego but eventually I realized that it was just extremely difficult for her no matter what. (I ended up giving her some towards the end of our relationship though.)

Also, kingcock's stats are dangerously close to mine and I also don't have too many problems when making a girl orgasm. As W3 said it's all about mood and confidence. If you get into bed with a girl who isn't in the mood to have sex then she more than likely isn't going to come at all, likewise if you have no confidence in your abilities she's going to immediately know and it'll put her on edge.

I've been with women who only want to come, and I've been with women that just want the emotional feelings sex gives them. It's just an added bonus when they have an orgasm during intercourse. If your girlfriend hasn't given you any reason to doubt her words then don't let this bum you out. I mean yeah of course, try and fix the problem. But if you down to the bottom line cannot make her come then don't let it ruin the relationship. Just keep trying. Good luck man.

sorry for the long post. and also sorry if I came across as kinda all-knowing, I didn't mean to.

[G-Spot19]

No need to apologize. Very good post and you didnt seem all knowing at all. Just adding some input as was KingCock so its all good. :cool