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Bobo
31st May 2005, 02:59 PM
No need to read this, I'm only writing it because it's quite therapeutic to get stuff off my chest.

I've been struggling lately, really, I've been tired as hell. My mind isn't where it should be, I forget things... my brain is working with 50% effort. Really, the way I can work when I'm healthy, it's truly amazing now that I think about it: I used to remember everything without having to write anything down, and really... in my job that's loads of stuff. I have been only a shadow of what I used to be. Two weeks back I felt really depressed, and contacted my doctor about it. After the long conversation his solution was: max dosage of the anti-depressant I've been taking for a few months now. Really: a dose so big only the most difficult cases take... he didn't tell me that, I found the info elsewhere. Damn, what the hell? That can't be right? What's happening to me?

Then I contacted my boss about it, and arranged a meeting with him. We talked for 3,5 hours straight... My point was to inform him I'm not functioning 100% and because of the big things I'm in charge of he should know about my situation because I can't guarantee everything will go as it should. In the back of my head I kept thinking what the hell am I doing? Not wise to reveal any weakness to a boss... but it was quite vice versa. He said to me that he's never seen such honesty in his staff before, and he really appreciates my honesty. There I was thinking he must think I'm a tired loser and he should find a replacement soon, but nothing like that happened. He took his time telling me how my efforts have impressed him, and told me about how my career will advance in the future... and he ordered me to take it easy for a while and promised not to strain me with any new projects until I feel ready for them. A great man he is.

That made me feel alot better, and I ripped the prescription (the anti-depressants) in pieces and bought the smaller ones I've been eating for a while. I feel alot better now, not having to worry about my job if I fuck something up. Honesty: sometimes it's worth having. Damn, I do feel good!

Now, I can start saving money for my great escape... break away from this sick rat-race and move somewhere far away from this greedy world of ours. Maybe I build a few bungalows on a deserted island for travelers that seek some tranquility, or maybe a banana plantation... something without noisy machines and greedy backstabbing people. I take whatever I need to live, and give the rest to the poor community... that I didn't tell my boss. A man can dream, right?

Valk
31st May 2005, 03:25 PM
I'm glad you've talked to your boss. He was probably the only person who could help your situation, and fortunately he was enough human to do so.
Honestly, if someone gots your back in case you might fall, it feels so much better. You're not on your own anymore.

Although I love your posts, I hate them as well. Its a sad reminder of how little I've accomplished and how terrible person I am. You did so much good in your life. Got a good career while maintaining your sense of humour. Being there for others, helping them. Damn, I'm proud of you.
I'm pretty much stuck, and I'm only 21 years old. I have a few options but I dont really think that I have what it talkes so really succeed in any of them.
I can start a small business, I can become a musician, I can do volenteers work. Whatever.
The worst thing, my depression has made me terrible selfish. I can only think of myself now. Blah!

You really should make your escape Bobo. If its not now, atleast do in 20 years are so. Good luck!

:)

MagnumXL
31st May 2005, 04:51 PM
I guess we all got some depression on these forums... atleast no in the penile area anymore eh ? :D

Bobo
31st May 2005, 05:03 PM
Thanks for Your kind words, but trust me on this: there's absolutely NO reason to envy me. Envy... now that's a bad word... I'm sure that's not what You're feeling, but since I can't think of a better one, take it in the nicest possible way. You're 21, so there's really no reason to feel sorry for Yourself yet, if ever. I started to study seriously when I was 24, and until that moment I felt just like You do now. It's never too late to advance in life, but to really be happy, one should learn to appreciate the good things he already has. Many (including myself) spend their lives dreaming of something better and feeling bad about themselves when there would actually be many things to be thankful of. Well, look who's talking... but that's the truth. I wasn't happy before and dreamed of studying and career advancement, and now when it's reality I'm even more sad, and must come to the conclusion that I used to be happier. First I wanted more, and now that I have it, I dream of less... less is more. It's a weird and funny world we live in, my friend.

I will make my escape some day, that's a promise. It may take a year or ten, but it will happen. That much I know about myself: with determination this strong, it will happen sooner or later. I will be the happy tattooed guy on the beach with the weird red beard... welcoming You to paradise if You ever would seek peace on my island.

wern
2nd June 2005, 09:46 AM
meditate

Clockers
2nd June 2005, 10:20 AM
I'am glad you talked to your boss bobo, and yes it can be a scary thing to do' going to the big man and showing/telling him your weakness/problems. :shock: But sometimes we have no other choice, (the talk must take place) i done it and i must say when i had a talk to my boss, i felt alot better.. :cool Trust me! you may think your boss is fine but all in all he has problems aswell, or he has been in your shoes before and know's what you are going through. ( depression, to much work'load, family, what ever) and you both get to know one another alittle bit better, and you look at each other just alittle bit open minded aswell, if you know what i mean. And even sometimes you become good friends aswell. (after the talk) :cool



Good luck my friend! :wink:

Bobo
3rd June 2005, 07:36 AM
In my opinion, I read people well. I had already analyzed my boss so I knew (99%) he'd take it in a good way. If he'd be an asshole, I would never have revealed my weakness to him. He's one of the good ones, hell... I've been running with him too (PR)! :D

Clockers
3rd June 2005, 10:01 AM
:cool

zwmusic
3rd June 2005, 11:57 AM
He's one of the good ones

Lucky you Bobo.