No more boners

[RagingWaters]

Right now I started to work, and I have been destined for a few days on a local pool in a building colony --> urbanization.

Today I met the president of the urbanization. She told me when I would have the keys to the main door, where I had the medkits, etc.

She was fucking hot.

Her face had vivacious, bright blue eyes, and even that seems that youthness left her a while back, her face looks beautiful under her small wrinkles. Her neck, her slender arms, her back... she has that kind of big, beautiful breasts that even after having been filled at least two times to feed her sons, still look soo soft and soo firm... her ass... well im extending myself more than needed.

The problem is that I didn't had an erection to her. We talked and then we went our ways, she took a bath, I kept watching the pool and her, like nothing happened. The lust I felt for a moment is not enough to feed the dreams about her that I will never have. And my penis is still as inert as this morning. In fact, it's been two days or three since my last boner, and that was watching porn.

I don't have a clue why this happens. It's been at least half a week since my last PE due to a lot of shit happening around me, so it can't be PE.

Im starting to think that I have a rotten heart of stone that can't really give a damn for anyone. And it's really hard to fight this back when your body just keeps his momentum, moving to a crappy life. What sense does having a big penis when you can't really make a profit of it?

I'm gone to sleep. I doubt I'll be able to jack off thinking about her, but I have to try. Wherever I suceed or not, lady, please forgive me.

[metallicarocks05]

Are you stressed out alot in your life? That can really kill libido man. Try to relax, and don't pressure yourself. If this continues for an extended period, you might consider going to see a doctor. It could be hormonal imbalances or something.

[RagingWaters]

Stress is actually a part of my life. I have to drive to work for 20 minutes per travel, four travels per day (to eat and to rest) resulting in more than a hour in displacements; 8 hours of work, and in work i'm studying for an exam that I will have in 2 days time and I don't even know if I will pass; the relationship with the family in my house is, expressed in the best terms I can find, interesting . . .

And the worst part is that I just can stop it:
No studying -> No passing exams.
No working -> No money to pay college in order to pass more exams.
No passing exams -> Problems in my house.
No passing exams -> No degree.
No degree -> No good job.

So that's it. I'm killing my boners for earning a degree I don't even know if it will be useful. Great deal.

[w3]

Yeah stress is a killer.
I seem to have some erection trouble also. I was thinking about going into selibacy for a while.
I don't want to end up being frustrated and afraid if it wont stand up, and that's going to turn into a fucking big issue.
So maybe I should relieve myself from sex for a while, just to get my shit truly straight.

[metallicarocks05]

Maybe you should do a little research and studying of the Tao te Ching. It really has changed my outlook on life, and I am more at peace than I have ever been. To quote the 16th verse:

Become totally empty. Let your heart be at peace. Amidst the rush of worldly comings and goings, observe how endings become beginnings. Things flourish, each by each, only to return to the source, to what is, and what is to be. To return to the root is to find peace. To find peace is to fulfill one's destiny. To fulfill one's destiny is to be constant. To know the constant is called insight. Not knowing this cycle leads to eternal disaster. Knowing the constant gives perspective. This perspective is impartial. Impartiality is the highest nobility, the highest nobility is divine. Being divine, you will be at one with the Tao. Being at one with the Tao is eternal. This way is everlasting, not in danger with physical death.


This verse, among other things, is talking about change, and how change is really the only constant there is in life. Learn to accept that, and feel the bliss of being in harmony with the cyclical nature of life. That's helped me not stress out about things that I have no control over, and to realize that just because something ends, doesn't mean that I should be sad or upset. All things return to "the source," and my eternal self still exists through all of this. Seasons come and go, no matter if I fight it or not. People die even when we don't want them to. When people don't get that job they wanted, their life falls apart because they put so much emphasis on it, and don't recognize that endings are nothing more than new beginnings. This way of thinking might help you with your stress.

[RagingWaters]

So it seems I must accept my dick is dying virgin. Honestly, I dont know how. I never really showed the other cheek when life slapped me and this is no exception. At least I know my dick works, but now only when watching porn.

I don't understand why i dont respond to the sexual insinuations that females ocassionally throw to me. Heck, yesterday a lady grabbed her (huge) breasts at 1 metre of me as she was climbing out the pool, but I thought she just did it to shake off water. And today, a cute girl, sitting on the edge of the pool, started to languidly swing her arm in the water as I walked by, while seductively resting her back on the ladder.

If I responded to every one of these insinuations properly (if they are really insinuations) i would be a play-boy by now. But something in my mind says in the moment 'stop. that girl is not for you. you dont really need nothing from her, as she wont enjoy anything from you' to the point that I don't remember the last time i had an erection on the street.

IT DRIVES ME NUTS

[Steve Madden]

From your last post it seems pretty likely to me that your erection problems are a psychological matter. If you've convinced yourself that no woman would enjoy having sex with you, how do you expect to get hard with that on your mind?

I'm not going to tell you exactly what to do, because more than likely the specific solution is something your going to have to figure out for yourself. All I'll say is I think you need to divorce yourself from the negative, self-devaluating perceptions you have about your sexual self.