Switching positions?

[thajizzer]

Alright, well I actually came for the first time in my girl, wearing a condom. This was the third time I had sex with her. The first two times were just under bad circumstances. I felt awkward the first time and the second time the rubber got stuck in her :roll:. Well anyways, I kinda lost an erection after I cummed, and then I really couldn't get one after that. The main reason was because I wanted to change positions and she didn't. She is wicked bad about that, she doesn't like to switch positions or anything and I hate that. All she wants to do is lay on her back while I do all the work, it sucks. Is there anything I can do to remedy both the erection issue and the position issue?

[Codzilla]

Hmm yeah i feel your pain bro. To be honest you two are still in the early stages. Maybe she just sin't quite comfortable with moving around you know? If you just end up staying in one position, its really just basic sex, very easy, and very straightforward. Eventually when you start experimenting, you are moving forward, and it starts to become more than just sex. Maybe she just isn't ready for it, or maybe she isn't used to it. Although you say she has slept with others in the past, maybe they weren't very into the whole changing position thing. If thats the case, after another 2 or 3 times, if she still doesnt want to change positions, talk to her. TALK!!!!. If she doesnt respond to the talking, take a bit of action in the bedroom and be a bit more forceful. Dont FORCE her into it, but take control a bit you know. Anyway first things first, talk to her. Her being on top, you being behind etc etc, all these different positions bring different sensations to you and her. Explain that, and maybe she will see the light. Good luck.

[Michael]

Alright, well I actually came for the first time in my girl, wearing a condom. This was the third time I had sex with her. The first two times were just under bad circumstances. I felt awkward the first time and the second time the rubber got stuck in her :roll:. Well anyways, I kinda lost an erection after I cummed, and then I really couldn't get one after that. The main reason was because I wanted to change positions and she didn't. She is wicked bad about that, she doesn't like to switch positions or anything and I hate that. All she wants to do is lay on her back while I do all the work, it sucks. Is there anything I can do to remedy both the erection issue and the position issue?

Looking at your stats, I reckon pop a pillow under her ass in the missionary position and take it slow inside her (drop your pelvis , balls deep to push upward). Ask her to tell you where it feels nice and that will get her moving with you a bit.

Losing an erection after ejaculation just happens, and a condom makes it harder to stay erect the 2nd time later cos less feeling.

Agree with codzilla about talking, do it softly in her ear while inside her to get her hornier and more responsive. That also puts you in control.

Enjoy:wink:

[TheThreatdown]

my fiancee doesn't like moving, it's a japanese custom thing. She is willing to try other positions so long as I do most of the work. It will take some convincing and maybe some time, but so long as it doesn't hurt her she should be willing to change things.

Let her know how sex is important to men moreso than women. My girl understand that for her cuddling is more emotional than sex, and sex for men is more emotional than cuddling.

[Rum_Runner]

Jizzer be glad she lets you have a go even if it is missionary only. It takes most women a long time to go to another position esspecially if she has never done it or even seen it. We men have to realise that most women do not watch a lot of porn or even know whats good for them:mrgreen

[The Assman]

yeh exactly...well put. my girl didn't want any other position then missionary for the first few times neither...i slowly got her comfortable with sex by takin it slow, now its fine, doggy, cowgirl, rev cowgirl, missionary, u name it!

[TheThreatdown]

What you need to do is make her have an orgasm. A REAL big orgasm.

Then she'll want it almost as much as you.

[The Assman]

My girl is still not comfortble enough to have an orgasm...even with a vibrator and my tongue for an hour...just doesn`t happen:( anyone knows why?

[Michael]

My girl is still not comfortble enough to have an orgasm...even with a vibrator and my tongue for an hour...just doesn`t happen:( anyone knows why?

Every girl is a bit different. A big thing for her is to be relaxed and not be thinking/worrying about bad stuff like; who might hear us, falling pregnant, what'son TV....
Also don't preesure her about having an orgasm or she might end up faking to keep you happy.

A LOT of girls cannot reach orgasm.

My partner took 2 months to come, and was her 1st. orgams with a guy. We just had to find the right way to make (at the time) <5 x <4.5 to work for her. In the end only her on top rubbing her clit onto my pubic bone got her to a clitoral orgasm....

I would start with encouraging her to do it herself alone without you. That will let her discover her nice spots. Her finger working the clitoris and the vibe probing for the G-spot.

Next time she can tell you where they are and guide you into them.

[TheThreatdown]

If she's flexible, try "THE BUMP". It's still missionary. Put her legs up on your shoulders, that will pressure her entire front walls, hitting the Gspot and it also allows your pubic bone to rub to her clit.

My girl after sex lied down on the bed for a couple of minutes unable to move after she took this position for 15 minutes. Your girl is probably less flexible than mine, as my future wife is a Kendo black belt (Japanese traditional swordfighting) and does stretching daily, so pay attention to her potential pain.

The only problem is that it feels SO fantastic for both parties that you can cum very quickly without doing a whole hell of a lot. Basically, get that strength up first.

[Michael]

My patner can't come doggy style cos I dont contact her clitoris. Also my cock bends away from the G-spot that way .

She loves doggy style. She would love to come doggy style and I really wish I could take her there that way. Because I can't, I avoid it because it is frustating, which totally sucks.:cry: :cry: :x

PE has given me some extra length ( from ~5 to 5.5NBP) so I now manage to get some stroke in. That makes it heaps better for me, but only a little better for her.
I think a lack of good girth (4.5-4.7) is a problem here.

Anyone else have this problem?.

[Michael]

...We men have to realise that most women do not watch a lot of porn or even know whats good for them:mrgreen

LOL
Of course they all want it. They just don't know it yet.:lol:

[Steve Madden]

Probably one of the most important things to expediate this process would be to tell your girl often how hot her body is, how sexy she is, etc. Espcially around the time you're going to be doing it, and during the act if you're comfortable with it. It seems that women are often self-concious about their bodies (not unlike men) and they worry an aweful lot about things that would never enter our mind.

I can remember my ex being shy about being nude around me for a long time. Even after she loostened up a little she was still shy about her vaginal area and things like that; it seems a lot of women are concerned about odors, appearance, etc. I tried to express that although it's not something I'd want in my face during the dinner hour, during sexual situations I couldn't get enough of it (that's exactly where I'd want it, actually). It takes time though, and patience is key. It's funny that some of the things my girl would be sensitive about were things I found especially sexy, ie a little fat here or there or something like that. Tell her that she is what you find sexy, and that includes things about which she might be self-concious or what not.

[Redwood]

Sorry to barge in but this topic is in the wrong forum.

[Rum_Runner]

Good luck finding a mod to change it.:roll:

Orgasms are much easier for women that have had some experience with self gratification. They seem more comfortable with themselves after some time and will usually lead their partner to the right spot as long as they.

like you enough to talk to you about something so personal
actually would like you to repeat the performance more then once
think you can pull it offOtherwise ask her a lot of simple questions on where she likes the action while you are going at it. Be carefull on how you phrasee the question. It has to be about her enjoyment not only about you bringing her to her enjoyment. No bragging rights until you are married or she is fucking begging you to come over

[Steve Madden]

And offers to do your laundy if only you'll get her off. A proud, self-satisfied day, indeed.

Oh yes, there will be swaggering.

[thajizzer]

Well it was great hearing all of your experiences with this subject. It seems that it is common for a girl to feel that way, what makes it worse is that I still live with my parents, am saving up for a home, and I don't want to make to much noise, so I really can't do much with her. She is wicked flexible, a cheerleader, thing is that she says she is tired most of the time I am with her, and it really gets me annoyed, but I try and be understanding.

The reason why I get so frusturated is because I see all of these chicks in porn and they are doing everything, and then I am with my girl and its boring. I know that there is a big difference between having sex with your girl and sex with a stranger and getting paid for it. I don't know, I guess it will get better with time.

[Michael]

If she's flexible, try "THE BUMP". It's still missionary. Put her legs up on your shoulders, that will pressure her entire front walls, hitting the Gspot and it also allows your pubic bone to rub to her clit.

My girl after sex lied down on the bed for a couple of minutes unable to move after she took this position for 15 minutes. Your girl is probably less flexible than mine, as my future wife is a Kendo black belt (Japanese traditional swordfighting) and does stretching daily, so pay attention to her potential pain.

The only problem is that it feels SO fantastic for both parties that you can cum very quickly without doing a whole hell of a lot. Basically, get that strength up first.

I tried the bump last nite, but it hurt her. She said that it felt like I had raised her ass too high (I often put a pillow under her ass in the missionary pos. to get better penetration and uptilt into the G-spot which works really well). The bump felt like I used 2 pillows instead. The head of my cock pushed too far?

Still fun trying stuff though. Having her legs over my choulders made it possible to stoke my cock through the clitoris, and outer lips area kinda wrapped around it.:P

[Michael]

I guess it will get better with time.
It will.:D Just read and belive Steve Maddens bit earlier about telling a girl how hot she is, cos girls just crave that stuff and respond to it. They are self-centred, and often insecure creatures that need attention.

Also you can make your dates more fun by not getting too hung up over how much noise she makes when you fuck her. I might be guessing wrong here, but if your dates are all about finding a place to fuck her than that might explain her lack of interest??:?:neut:

[Steve Madden]

Well it was great hearing all of your experiences with this subject. It seems that it is common for a girl to feel that way, what makes it worse is that I still live with my parents, am saving up for a home, and I don't want to make to much noise, so I really can't do much with her. She is wicked flexible, a cheerleader, thing is that she says she is tired most of the time I am with her, and it really gets me annoyed, but I try and be understanding.

The reason why I get so frusturated is because I see all of these chicks in porn and they are doing everything, and then I am with my girl and its boring. I know that there is a big difference between having sex with your girl and sex with a stranger and getting paid for it. I don't know, I guess it will get better with time.

I've found that it's important in life to relish different experiences, even if they may seem less than ideal at the moment. Likely you'll look back on having to sneak around your parent's house with a little nostalgia; things like having to be careful can make the act all the sexier. You don't have to be an exhibitionist to appreciate the thrill (lord knows I'm not), just try and make the best of the situation.

And, if you're patient and take your time with your cheerleading babe now, buy the time you get your own place you might be able to get her to do it just about anywhere in the place. I always loved the hallway floor myself. Something so unusual about spending a lot of time in an area that is generally meant for segwaying between rooms....

[TheThreatdown]

I tried the bump last nite, but it hurt her. She said that it felt like I had raised her ass too high (I often put a pillow under her ass in the missionary pos. to get better penetration and uptilt into the G-spot which works really well). The bump felt like I used 2 pillows instead. The head of my cock pushed too far?

Still fun trying stuff though. Having her legs over my choulders made it possible to stoke my cock through the clitoris, and outer lips area kinda wrapped around it.:P

Well, if she's real flexible, push her legs down with your bodyweight, so that you're in the "regular" mish with her legs on your shoulders.

Don't go too crazy pounding away... you don't really need to move super fast for her to have a great time, and don't use a pillow under her at all... that would be overkill.

[Michael]

She's not that flexible, but I'll give it another go.

I tried doggy style again Tuesday night, using some of your technique - legs together knees in close and it helps make it better for her.

Normally doggy style opens her right up inside so the end half of my cock is kinda in space or not pushing much on anything. Holding her legs together and close into her body closes up the cavity inside so better sensation for her. also.. dropping my pelvis and working my balls around her clit area got her on the way. No orgasms for her in that position yet, but it was better so I will keep on with bump and doggy-bump:D .

Reps to you for your help threatdown.

[The Assman]

Yeh the doggy style is my favorite position by far...it just feels so damn good. But now that i got longer, i cant ram her like before too deep:( But fuck it!:mrgreen

[TheThreatdown]

One thing my girl seems very receptive to is woman on top man does all the work. Basically have her sit down on it, and brace herself to the bed or to you, and thrust up. (or hold her up)

What I like to do is get my hands behind her, and spread her ass. If you have long arms you can hold her lips to you.

[The Assman]

I love when we start off doggy style and then i get her to lay down on her stomach and i put a pillow under her, so her ass is pointing up. Then i drill her so im pointing down on her upper wall...she says it feels awesome!

[Steve Madden]

Man I love the woman on top ass spread thing. I just can't get enough; everytime is like the first time. I kindof get this chill sort of thing throw my body everytime I do it (or even think about it). Nice.

[The Assman]

Also a great thing to do which my girl loves is when i take a small vibrater put it on low massage her clit while i fuck her slowly aiming at her upper wall...she goes nuts!:twisted:

[Codzilla]

I bought my girl a rampant rabbit like almost 2 years ago. She went nuts for it!!! Only problem is it was so chunky that it wasn't easy to use it along with sex. But in my time alone i have decided what i want to do to her next time im with her. She lets me do anal, so i was thinking. Have her sit on a weist high stool, leaning forward, resting on the dinner table, with a vibrater inside her. Since she is leaning forward, only her asshole will be completely free, so then fuck her up the ass while shes sitting on the stool, with the vibrator inside her. She's gona go nuts!! Im so lucky my girlfriend likes anal. :D

[Michael]

I am SO taking notes guys!:lol:

Vibe inside her vagina while me in her ass is pretty cool and one of my favorites. I normally do this as a relaxing change. She comes with the vibe while I stroke slowly while spooning her.

[The Assman]

God damnit man...i have to get my girlfriend to let me try anal...damnit with her..

[thajizzer]

Just checking up on the thread, I can't believe that it got 5 stars. Well I hope we can keep on going, my girl is going on the pill this week and she is getting tested. She got tested before we were together, and she said everything was fine, but I asked her to get tested again and she said she would. Only reason why I am having her tested again is because I most likely will not be wearing a rubber with her once she goes on the pill. I don't know if I still should or not. Anyone have any experience with this? Going to have a lot of fun soon. :lol:

[The Assman]

Honestly, its slim chance your gonna knock her up if shes on the pill...as long as you make sure she doesn't forget to take the pill like mine does!:evil:

[TheThreatdown]

Don't take any chances, grind them up in her food!

[Codzilla]

Don't take any chances, grind them up in her food!

:lol: :lol: :lol:

[The Assman]

haha...thats another kind of pill for the old food trick:twisted: GHB!!! i think id feel too bad though.

[Michael]

Just checking up on the thread, I can't believe that it got 5 stars. Well I hope we can keep on going, my girl is going on the pill this week and she is getting tested. She got tested before we were together, and she said everything was fine, but I asked her to get tested again and she said she would. Only reason why I am having her tested again is because I most likely will not be wearing a rubber with her once she goes on the pill. I don't know if I still should or not. Anyone have any experience with this? Going to have a lot of fun soon. :lol:

Give it a till the end of the first period cycle on the pill, then you should be 99% safe. The pill does fail sometimes, but better than rubbers.