So I slept with a girl who has had a guy bigger than me.....

[hugh g rection]

Honestly I gotta say I knew this was possible, but I never really thought it was going to happen. The guy was nowhere near my length, and I doubt I ever have to worry about anyone matching up there. My girth is just a little over 7 inches and the last girl I was with had a guy thicker than me.

The reason this came up was because I thought I was hurting her when we had sex and she told me a couple times I had the biggest girth she would ever want, because any bigger hurts like hell. I asked her how she knew that and she told me she had been with a guy who was thicker than me. Apparently he was 3 inches wide, and yes she measured it and yes I saw a picture of it. :shock:

I don't even think the guy is actually much bigger around than I am, he was just shaped like a rectangle and it tore her everytime they had sex. I know it's kind of petty but I really didn't like the feeling. She even told me she thought mine is the perfect size but I can't shake this feeling of inadequecy.

I mean why would I want to be thicker if I am right on the borderline, and I know I am too. I hope you guys don't take this the wrong way, like "Oh poor hugh, he is so big and is bitching away when we would kill to be his size" because it isn't like that. I'm just one of those people who has to be #1 in everything they do you know? I'm intensely competitive and even though I don't always want to win something(like having a girth so huge I tear women everytime) I still have this primal instinct that I need to be.

She even straight up told me that sex with this other guy was terrible, and this is a highly sexual person. She loves sex, but with this guy it was horrid everytime. It hurt so bad apparently she cried and tore each time they had sex and only even did it because she cared about the guy and was trying to be a great girlfriend.


I guess the point of all that is, try and be confident in yourself and happy with what you have. Otherwise you will end up like me and then when some prick(pun intended) pops your little confidence bubble and you will be a bundle of neuroses. So now you all know, I'm about as self assured as can be until my little safety net is gone and then I fall to pieces. I just can't stop being competitive and I hate that, because I'm never just confident in myself. I'm only confident in the ways I have beaten other people.

Bah, I'm rambling but I hope you guys get the idea. Sorry if it seems like I am complaining for a stupid reason but this is honestly really bothering me.

[zeolite]

Rather than trying to be happy with what you already have, ideally I would try and decide what was the perfect amount (in this case for girth) and then reach that. Once you are sure that this is exactly how things should be and then you have reached your goal THEN you should try to be happy with things the way they are. I don't know whether that will make you feel any better Hugh, it's just my 2 cents.

[Shane_Bos]

I can understand where you're coming from mate. If you think you're number one then some one comes along and 'beats' you, its harder than if you expect to lose. I know there are loads of people bigger than me so if a size discussion comes along with a girl, it doesnt bother me too much if im not the biggest shes had.

Its like if you were the fastest 100m sprinter to date, ie you hold the world recored and you're ranked number one, you'll take defeat harder than anyone else if some one was to come along and beat you and take your world record.

When i read the thread title i thought you meant bigger build than you and you were scared he was gona smash you up cos he found out you slept with his bird or something :lol:

[hugh g rection]

Rather than trying to be happy with what you already have, ideally I would try and decide what was the perfect amount (in this case for girth) and then reach that. Once you are sure that this is exactly how things should be and then you have reached your goal THEN you should try to be happy with things the way they are. I don't know whether that will make you feel any better Hugh, it's just my 2 cents.


Well the thing is, if I was any thicker she would tear. I know how it feels when a woman is right on the edge of tearing and she is right there, so if I was any thicker she would tear.

I just don't quite know how to really make myself realize that she likes it better with me, and that really does make me #1....

I can understand where you're coming from mate. If you think you're number one then some one comes along and 'beats' you, its harder than if you expect to lose. I know there are loads of people bigger than me so if a size discussion comes along with a girl, it doesnt bother me too much if im not the biggest shes had.

Its like if you were the fastest 100m sprinter to date, ie you hold the world recored and you're ranked number one, you'll take defeat harder than anyone else if some one was to come along and beat you and take your world record.

When i read the thread title i thought you meant bigger build than you and you were scared he was gona smash you up cos he found out you slept with his bird or something

Hahah, nah. I'm not scared some guy is going to beat me up. Yea, that does make sense because I have worked hard to get where I am and now it's like well fuck.

I just have to keep reminding myself that sex with him was terrible, and she told me after the first time she's never had it that good.

I'm just not very secure with myself honestly, and for something like sex, which is so intimate, it is a bit of a striking blow.

[zwmusic]

Well the thing is, if I was any thicker she would tear. I know how it feels when a woman is right on the edge of tearing and she is right there, so if I was any thicker she would tear.

I just don't quite know how to really make myself realize that she likes it better with me, and that really does make me #1....

Hahah, nah. I'm not scared some guy is going to beat me up. Yea, that does make sense because I have worked hard to get where I am and now it's like well fuck.

I just have to keep reminding myself that sex with him was terrible, and she told me after the first time she's never had it that good.

I'm just not very secure with myself honestly, and for something like sex, which is so intimate, it is a bit of a striking blow.

This is quite alien to me, I never made myself aware of any other guy my partner/partners had, specially if they were bigger or smaller. I came to the conclusion that when you're dealing with a woman (and obviously sex), you have a no-win situation in your hands. Women know that and they can play you around real good if they wish to. So, the best you can do is to take her words and consider yourself a lucky man she thinks you're the best.

[hugh g rection]

This is quite alien to me, I never made myself aware of any other guy my partner/partners had, specially if they were bigger or smaller. I came to the conclusion that when you're dealing with a woman (and obviously sex), you have a no-win situation in your hands. Women know that and they can play you around real good if they wish to. So, the best you can do is to take her words and consider yourself a lucky man she thinks you're the best.


Thats what I'm trying to look at it like zw, thanks though for the added perspective. Past partners tend to come up a lot with me, for obvious reasons I suppose.

Thanks for the all the help though guys. :mrgreen

[soserious]

Thats how I feel about almost any aspect you can think of about other "better" people than me. It makes me feel sick inside , totally inadequate and hate myself enough to destroy myself.
I am not as big or as good breeding stock as most. But I am not powerless..

Shitty experience, ramble on, its cool. Hope you feel better soon and regain your confidence once logic and sound reasoning take teh lead in your hindbrain again. Ripples in a pond.. soon be calm again.
Peace.

SS

[Tmac 1 LeBron 23]

Great post Hugh, I like the last stanza :wink:

[ownd]

"Oh poor hugh, he is so big and is bitching away when we would kill to be his size"

Poor Hughe :lol:

[Wendell]

dude, I am WAY smaller and I can get my GF to orgasm. Its not really about the size (I know it is a cliche) but about what you do with it. So what if he is bigger, as long as you are getting the job done, what more can she ask?

[hugh g rection]

dude, I am WAY smaller and I can get my GF to orgasm. Its not really about the size (I know it is a cliche) but about what you do with it. So what if he is bigger, as long as you are getting the job done, what more can she ask?


Yes I know, trust me. I'm actually feeling a lot better about it after I talked with her. Trust me, I know what I'm doing in regards to my technique in bed. I've had a lot of practice and I pay attention to what women like.