Trying To Last

[Theone]

Hello everyone,
I was wondering if there were any good ways to last longer when your with your mate. So you don't shoot off to quickly or whatnot cause your neverous or whatnot. I want to make sure this girl i'm sooo close to haveing..um fun with is good. I don't want to get too neverous and shoot off. So any good tips to lasting longer. Thanks


-The One

[Spike]

Well Theo, worrying about shooting your muck too quickly is a sure fire way to make it happen, so don't.

[Netgear]

Heh, please excuse my boldness but i reckon your underage? :lol: . Anyway id suggest looking through <a href="http://www.cheekycherry.com/ccforums/showthread.php?t=1844">this thread</a><-- click(i think there was a better one but i cant find it atm, ill keep looking tho), and like Spike said, thinking about firing is a way to come faster than you can click your fingers. I used to be the same, i think mainly from not being confident enough due to the very under average stats. But now i concentrate more on the feelings of sex, enjoying it and making sure she enjoys it. Kegels also help.
Welcome to CC :mrgreen

[BigBadBear]

What Spike said. Just relax and enjoy the ride.

Also, if you feel you're getting too close to orgasm too quickly you could pull out and give her oral or something like that until the moment has passed, then carry on where you left off, or just change the pace of your thrusting. Variation is a good thing anyway.

[Wendell]

You can always rub one out before hand. The first one is always the easiest :mrgreen

[monkeyboy]

When you're getting ready to cum, stop all motion immediately, and then do a hard reversekegel. Push hard for about 10 seconds and you are good as gold until you need to cum again...then reverse kegel again.

Somehow, the reverse kegel causes pressure to be reduced from the prostate (or some bullshit that I don't understand) as you're getting ready to have an orgasm. The first time I tried it, it worked as advertised. I've even waited too long and pushed like a mother with the technique and I swear my cum was about to blast out of my shaft, but it didn't, and we kept having sex afterwards.

The other day, we had sex and I actually did 3 reverse kegels (separate times of course) during the session but the kicker is that I did it while I was inside her...no stopping and coming out to do the technique. I couldn't have done that 3 months ago. Give it a try and if you're scared to do it during the sacred act of getting pussy then jack off and try it then...this technique works.

[MagnumXL]

practice makes perfect. theres no real way to 'last longer' by doing any exercises other than having more sex so you become numb to it.

[BIGOKE]

What MonkeyBoy said. PC clamps cause pressure to build up even though you cut the semen off from shooting, and you come within a couple of minutes. Reverse kegels allow you carry on for longer becuse you relax the pressure and it also increases the pleasure. RK rocks. :cool

[Theone]

I know what a kegel is. That's when you push up like a base ball bat? What is a Reverse kegels...I couldn't find any information on it.

[monkeyboy]

"push up like a baseball bat?"

To understand kegels, initially practice while going to the bathroom, urinating, to feel the muscles involved and the action.

Regular kegel: while urinating, stop yourself in mid-stream. Squeeze hard.

Reverse kegel: while urinating, make yourself go more. Push hard.

[BIGOKE]

Don't forget to breathe deeply. If you hold your breath it won't be effective. breathing helps you relax. It also helps if you educate yourself a little on tantric sex. Look it up on the net.

[Netgear]

The RK sounds crazy, but does that shit really work?Going to have to try that :mrgreen .Anyone end up gettin the same thing as when they squeeze the PC that when they start again the pleasure hasnt dropped and you want to come again within the minute, or do the RK work differently?

[MagnumXL]

lol kegels dont do crap for lasting longer other than give you mad wood. in order to do what they are describing requires an EXTREMELY strong pc muscle. one that is developed from a lot of pc flexes. only one i can think of that can do that is peter north cuz he also shoots so far.

[Axlerod]

Kegels definitely help me last longer. Never tried this reverse kegel though.....

I find that from kegeling I can control my pc muscle much better, this means that if i want to just delay ejeculation for a while I concentrate on relaxing it and the desire to cum subsides. If I want to go for a while longer, I use a PC clamp to multiple orgasm. This takes a bit of work to get the hang of, but is well worth it. It means you can fuck really hard for a really long time. Basically until she can't take anymore and begs you to let her suck you off :cool

[MagnumXL]

^ no offense but that sounds stupid as hell. you watch too much porn. i can fuck hard for a long time with no problem.... i dont need to delay anything or do anything special. what you must understand is that an orgasm is purely mental. instead of clamping your pc muscle and hoping to god you dont cum why not focus on orgasming as a whole. tell yourself when you want to cum or when you dont want to. in the end you will expirience better sex after all this pc kegel mumbo jumbo is out of the way.

[Axlerod]

None taken Magnum. And I probably do watch too much porn!

An orgasm is clearly not purely mental though. Can you make yourself orgasm by thought alone? It is physical reflex, but one that we do have some mental contol over.

Different methods work better for different people though. I just wanted to highlight that in my experience kegels are definitely helpful in lasting longer. Not only because you can stop an orgasm by clamping, but also because with a strong PC muscle you feel the orgasm building up more, and have better control over this process.

[BIGOKE]

That brings us to the next point. Is ejaculating really an orgasm. I ask because sometimes i ejaculate without feeling the intensity and other times its like ... well you know.. :shock: :D :) . Point is that it dont always feel like an orgasm to me just ejaculating. I believe that multi orgasmic means having 2 or more orgasms without ejaculating. Ejaculating just seems like a way to end sexuall desire in the short term. Am I talking shit or what?

[Axlerod]

Yeah Bigoke, I meant "dry cumming" when I said multiple orgasm. So you can orgasm without ejaculation, and this allows you to carry on.

Not sure about ejaculating without orgasming though. Orgasms vary in intensity, maybe they are just really low intensity ones?

[Wannabe_BIG]

I have actually managed to get an ejaculation, without the orgasm.

It happened when I was trying to hold it off. Its the most annyoing stuff I have ever witnessed :P . All the sperm, but no pleassure..

[Netgear]

An orgasm is clearly not purely mental though. Can you make yourself orgasm by thought alone? It is physical reflex, but one that we do have some mental contol over.

Firstly a woman can orgasm without any manual stimulation, i.e. through thought alone. Its probably possible with guys aswell, wet dreams possibly?

[Katsz]

Firstly a woman can orgasm without any manual stimulation, i.e. through thought alone. Its probably possible with guys aswell, wet dreams possibly?
That seems reasonable, though I know I have too much of a one-track mind for it.

[BIGOKE]

I have actually managed to get an ejaculation, without the orgasm.

It happened when I was trying to hold it off. Its the most annyoing stuff I have ever witnessed :P . All the sperm, but no pleassure..

Yep that is what happens to me too. Usually trying to get the woman to cum but sometimes shes too far away. no pleasure, however if I'm feeling selfish then... :D :D :D

[Netgear]

Still no luck with these RK. Going to keep on practising tho :lol:

[MagnumXL]

None taken Magnum. And I probably do watch too much porn!

An orgasm is clearly not purely mental though. Can you make yourself orgasm by thought alone? It is physical reflex, but one that we do have some mental contol over.

Different methods work better for different people though. I just wanted to highlight that in my experience kegels are definitely helpful in lasting longer. Not only because you can stop an orgasm by clamping, but also because with a strong PC muscle you feel the orgasm building up more, and have better control over this process.


no but you get aroused to the point where you have an orgasm just through a mental state. why do you think sometimes you are so horny that you can bust a nut in under 30 seconds while other times it can take you as long as 20 minutes. its all mental.

[Netgear]

here here :lol: