How Do I Last Longer?!

[giglio]

i seriously cannot keep it in me unless i pre-jack before a session with a chick. i dont know whats wrong with me. ive tryed just about anything. thinking of random stuff, such as grass.. even lawn chairs.. nothing works. i've tryed tightening my chode.. which only helped me go quicker. i have a current girlfriend and i see the girl practically every day and we have atleast once a week.. and i would assume i would get use to her by now.. but i cant.. i just go til about a good 3-4 mins.. and thats it. capute. help me. and my penis is small as it is. hopefully i can increase my time atleast.. thanks buds!

[Officespace2801]

Ok, I've never actually had this problem, but I'll try to give you some help.

First, take up a PE regimen. You said your dick is small, so this will help and I think doing it helps me last longer.

But I think there are some things that you need to analyze about yourself. First, were/are you one of those guys who always jerked off just to get off? A lot of guys have trained themselves to be quick by jerking off with the sole intention of cumming (thus trying to get that done as quickly as possible). If this sounds like you, make it a point from now to jerk off for at least 20 minutes each time you do it. If you find yourself getting close, stop, take a breath, and go on from there.

Also, try to figure out if there's anything specifically your girlfriend does that pushes you over the edge. If you see her doing that, pull it out (unless she is about to cum...then you do NOT pull it out, EVER!). You can tease her, lean in for a long kiss, or switch positions. All of these are rather inconspicuous and will give you a bit of a breather.

Finally, refocus your thinking on sex. Most guys will say it's all about them...they're not getting any rave reviews from women. Make the purpose of sex to pleasure her. If you do this, you will probably feel less worried about what you're feeling and that will take alot of pressure off. I do this and I can say that all of the girls that I've slept with since have wanted to continue having sex even after we broke up. I'm not trying to brag, just pointing out that this has other benefits that can help you in the long run.

[Tmac 1 LeBron 23]

Well if it is ok with you tell us the size of your penis.... And getting to the main point men struggle with this problem. The best thing you can do is do kegels to strengthen the PC muscle which in the long run will give you better erections and you'll be able to hold it in. Apart from that just keep trying to force yourself not to ejaculate. :wink:

Goodluck and welcome to CC

[hugh g rection]

Masturbate till you are about to cum, then stop. Do this over and over until you can masturbate for 20 or 30 minutes straight without cumming. Then you should have the self control to last 10 minutes during sex.

[Tmac 1 LeBron 23]

hmmm, good stradegy

[Valk]

Masturbate till you are about to cum, then stop. Do this over and over until you can masturbate for 20 or 30 minutes straight without cumming. Then you should have the self control to last 10 minutes during sex.

Will this exercise also desensitize you (physical or psychological) in a way?
I have always wondered if it just gives you self control or if it does more then that.

[ThirdLeg]

Masturbate till you are about to cum, then stop. Do this over and over until you can masturbate for 20 or 30 minutes straight without cumming. Then you should have the self control to last 10 minutes during sex.

This helps alot.. like he said go till your about to cum then stop for about 1:30 - 2 minutes till its about 30% then go at it again. I usually do this for about an hour (but do it for 20 minutes to start and increase it) and I can last alot longer in bed then i use to and it gives a hell of a lot stronger orgasm.

[giglio]

lol, yea! thanks it may have been psycological.. but it seemed to have worked already lol

[getabocken]

Just wanted to support you, Giglio.
I'm in the same boat as you. I have been married to the same woman for 8 years now and I still can't have sex for long, before I come.

I think that I have masturbated to fast, as someone said. Why couldn't anyone have told me that when I was 13?

Well, my hope is that my pc-muscle exercise will help and I will start to masturbate for long periods. It's a little hard to do when you have a wife and two kids running around :?

"Hi kids, daddy is just practising"

[ThirdLeg]

oh and slowly lessen the breaks you take. so if you start at 2 minute breaks then start up again then after about the 5th or 10 th time try goin to a minute and 45 seconds. soon even a little break will let you be able to start up again for a while then stop. Well at least thats the idea thats just somthing i have done and it has helped me so :).

[Netgear]

ive used the start stop method recently and it is working but its difficult to fit it in with my pe routine 'cuz of the 5 hour rule.
Id suggest the PC exercises as these will help you not only last longer, but have a harder and longer erection aswell.

[wern]

Will this exercise also desensitize you (physical or psychological) in a way?
I have always wondered if it just gives you self control or if it does more then that.

I think it can desensitise you, but that's the point :lol: