Valk
22nd March 2005, 01:11 PM
Originally posted by Uldie42
This subject pops up many times. Guys want to know how to hold off their ejaculation whether it's for sex or to prepare themselves for sex. There are a couple factors involved which makes a male naturally ejaculate "fast". One is from your childhood. In your subconscious mind, you are "programmed" to orgasm/ejaculate fast because when you were a child, most likely you wanted to "get off fast" so you wouldn't get caught. Maybe you don't think that, but it's true. Your body was programmed that way, so it will always be that way. The second factor is your puboccocceygeus muscle, referred to as the PC muscle. The PC muscle is not naturally strong, therefore that adds to the tendencies of "premature ejaculation". But, there is hope. That is why I'm writing this article. Read on.
Re-program Your Mind
Yes, it's true. You're programmed to bust a nut quick, and there isn't shit you can do about it. Right? WRONG. There is a way around it, but it's not a quick fix. It takes time. You want to "override" the old programming with the new. So, how do you do that? You TRAIN yourself not to ejaculate quick. Yes, that's a word you didn't want to hear, but if you REALLY want to have success, you'll do the work. The training is quite simple. Do you know how to masturbate? I'm sure you do. There you go. That's your answer. You will train yourself through a simple technique called masturbation. But, you won't like what I'm going to tell you. You probably won't get a lot of "satisfaction" doing it the way I'm going to tell you, BUT you WILL get the choice of ejaculating WHENEVER you want. Choose a time that you want to ejaculate in...say you want to release after 20 minutes. That is your target from now on. Every time you go to train, you will wait until 20 minutes is up before you ejaculate. Now that you have a little understanding, I'll tell you how the training will be performed. First of all, don't just whack as fast as you can and expect this to work. It requires discipline. There will be times that you will want to just get it over with because it feels good, well, sorry, you can't do that. You will be using a "mixed rhythm" technique for this. To make it easier, listen to a song. You will be listening to different instruments at different times. Listen to a song that changes tempo...take the guitar and masturbate to the beat of the guitar. You probably think this is crazy, but keep reading...you'll be glad you did. Sometimes you will go fast, sometimes slow, sometimes only one stroke, sometimes 5 or more. After you've taken the guitar, switch to listening to the drums. You can take the cymbals, toms, snare, whatever you want...just go with the beat. Switch to the bass next, or the keyboard...whatever you want. Keep switching instruments until your time is up. After that, you can ejaculate and congratulate yourself because you are one step closer to lasting longer than you ever imagined possible. Don't do this on consecutive days, or multiple times per day. Whenever you masturbate, use this technique...don't do it one day and another day ejaculate whenever you feel like it. Every time you go to masturbate, use this technique. Stick to it for one to two months. Your body will get use to ejaculating after that 20 minutes, and then you won't need this anymore. But, there is one other trick that will help you out significantly, and it's the second part to this training method.
Training The Untrained
As you know, if you don't train your muscles, you will not become strong. The puboccocceygeus muscle is just like any other muscle in your body...it needs to be trained to become strong. You do this by an exercise called Kegels. The exercise is very simple, but you have to know what muscle the puboccocceygeus is. There is a simple way to find out. The PC muscle lies between your testicles and anus. The easiest way to find out how a kegel is performed is to take a leak, and stop the urine flow. You will feel that the PC muscle is tightening. Congratulations, you know how to do a kegel. Now, you can perform kegels anywhere at any time. You DO NOT have to be taking a piss to do kegels...that was just to show you where the PC muscle is and what kegels feel like. Remember, the PC muscle IS a muscle and can be overtrained if you don't know what you're doing. When first starting off with kegels, use a moderate squeeze. Make the concentric phase (squeeze) 4 seconds, hold for 2, and then a 4 second eccentric phase (release). Do this 25 times, 4 times a day, for 2 weeks. After 2 weeks, squeeze harder, and have a 5 second concentric phase, hold, and eccentric phase. Do this for 2 weeks as well. You should be able to notice a difference in the intensity of your orgasms after the initial 2 weeks, but it could take the whole 4. Stick to the routine. After 4 weeks, increase the number of kegels you do by 25, and up the time 10 seconds, every week.
From Me To You
Now that you know the two main factors limiting you from lasting hours, I will include something very special. I have written a few things about multiple orgasms, and I will personally teach you, through this article, how to achieve multiple orgasms. There was a time in my life, not too long ago, that I was wanting to last longer in bed. I would last a good hour or so, nothing to be ashamed of, but I wanted more. That's when I discovered multiple orgasms. You can have all the orgasms you want, but no ejaculation, and when you choose to ejaculate, you can. It is truly extraordinary, and will help you in your sex life, and your partner will be ecstatic. This will bring you closer to your lover. To be multi-orgasmic, you need to understand that kegels are very important. Without a strong PC muscle you just CANNOT do it. In order to achieve multiple orgasms you have to know where your limit is. If you pass the "point of no return", no matter what you do, you will ejaculate. Timing is CRITICAL. If you are too late, you will ejaculate, if you are too soon, you will need to kegel again, which could mean you ejaculate as well. Yes, that's probably boring information, but you need to know it in order to achieve multiple orgasms. Now, on to the goods. Start off with masturbation. You don't want to try this having sex for the first few times, because you need a good feel of things. You have to be able to rate the intensity of your feelings. While masturbating you need to say "this feels like a 6" or "this feels like a 1". 1 will be almost no arousal...10 being the point of no return. When you get around a "7", stop masturbating until the arousal subsides to about a "5". Continue masturbating when you get to this point. When you get to an "8", stop and let it subside to a "6". When you get to a "9", stop and let it subside to a "7". Now, this is where it becomes a little tricky. You will be at a "10" really soon, and you DO NOT want to reach this point. If you do, all hope is lost this time...you will ejaculate. Continue masturbating until you get to a "9.9". You should feel like a few more strokes and you will set off. At this point, squeeze your PC muscle as hard as you can. Keep your eyes OPEN, and take very deep breaths. Keep the PC muscle clamped, keep your eyes open, just a little longer. It might feel like you missed your orgasm, or you may feel a slight or full orgasm. After a good 15-20 seconds, release the kegel. You should still have an erection, and you should NOT have ejaculated. Depending on your timing, you may see a slight semen-like fluid, but that is OK. You've held off your ejaculation. Your arousal may be at a 1 at this point. Continue masturbating, until you are about to ejaculate again, and this time, ejaculate. Congratulations!! You've just had a multiple orgasm!! Next time you will know how to have a multiple orgasm, and you can have as many as you want! You will be the alpha male!!!
In conclusion, you have all the information you need right here on this page. You will never have to worry about premature ejaculation again. All it takes is dedication, and a little bit of work, and your sex life will be changed forever. This is not a quick fix, this is permanent. Stick with your kegels and remember everything I have told you, and you will be a better lover, and you will know that is what your mate is thinking. Good luck!
The Mack Daddy of CC,
Oldie.
This subject pops up many times. Guys want to know how to hold off their ejaculation whether it's for sex or to prepare themselves for sex. There are a couple factors involved which makes a male naturally ejaculate "fast". One is from your childhood. In your subconscious mind, you are "programmed" to orgasm/ejaculate fast because when you were a child, most likely you wanted to "get off fast" so you wouldn't get caught. Maybe you don't think that, but it's true. Your body was programmed that way, so it will always be that way. The second factor is your puboccocceygeus muscle, referred to as the PC muscle. The PC muscle is not naturally strong, therefore that adds to the tendencies of "premature ejaculation". But, there is hope. That is why I'm writing this article. Read on.
Re-program Your Mind
Yes, it's true. You're programmed to bust a nut quick, and there isn't shit you can do about it. Right? WRONG. There is a way around it, but it's not a quick fix. It takes time. You want to "override" the old programming with the new. So, how do you do that? You TRAIN yourself not to ejaculate quick. Yes, that's a word you didn't want to hear, but if you REALLY want to have success, you'll do the work. The training is quite simple. Do you know how to masturbate? I'm sure you do. There you go. That's your answer. You will train yourself through a simple technique called masturbation. But, you won't like what I'm going to tell you. You probably won't get a lot of "satisfaction" doing it the way I'm going to tell you, BUT you WILL get the choice of ejaculating WHENEVER you want. Choose a time that you want to ejaculate in...say you want to release after 20 minutes. That is your target from now on. Every time you go to train, you will wait until 20 minutes is up before you ejaculate. Now that you have a little understanding, I'll tell you how the training will be performed. First of all, don't just whack as fast as you can and expect this to work. It requires discipline. There will be times that you will want to just get it over with because it feels good, well, sorry, you can't do that. You will be using a "mixed rhythm" technique for this. To make it easier, listen to a song. You will be listening to different instruments at different times. Listen to a song that changes tempo...take the guitar and masturbate to the beat of the guitar. You probably think this is crazy, but keep reading...you'll be glad you did. Sometimes you will go fast, sometimes slow, sometimes only one stroke, sometimes 5 or more. After you've taken the guitar, switch to listening to the drums. You can take the cymbals, toms, snare, whatever you want...just go with the beat. Switch to the bass next, or the keyboard...whatever you want. Keep switching instruments until your time is up. After that, you can ejaculate and congratulate yourself because you are one step closer to lasting longer than you ever imagined possible. Don't do this on consecutive days, or multiple times per day. Whenever you masturbate, use this technique...don't do it one day and another day ejaculate whenever you feel like it. Every time you go to masturbate, use this technique. Stick to it for one to two months. Your body will get use to ejaculating after that 20 minutes, and then you won't need this anymore. But, there is one other trick that will help you out significantly, and it's the second part to this training method.
Training The Untrained
As you know, if you don't train your muscles, you will not become strong. The puboccocceygeus muscle is just like any other muscle in your body...it needs to be trained to become strong. You do this by an exercise called Kegels. The exercise is very simple, but you have to know what muscle the puboccocceygeus is. There is a simple way to find out. The PC muscle lies between your testicles and anus. The easiest way to find out how a kegel is performed is to take a leak, and stop the urine flow. You will feel that the PC muscle is tightening. Congratulations, you know how to do a kegel. Now, you can perform kegels anywhere at any time. You DO NOT have to be taking a piss to do kegels...that was just to show you where the PC muscle is and what kegels feel like. Remember, the PC muscle IS a muscle and can be overtrained if you don't know what you're doing. When first starting off with kegels, use a moderate squeeze. Make the concentric phase (squeeze) 4 seconds, hold for 2, and then a 4 second eccentric phase (release). Do this 25 times, 4 times a day, for 2 weeks. After 2 weeks, squeeze harder, and have a 5 second concentric phase, hold, and eccentric phase. Do this for 2 weeks as well. You should be able to notice a difference in the intensity of your orgasms after the initial 2 weeks, but it could take the whole 4. Stick to the routine. After 4 weeks, increase the number of kegels you do by 25, and up the time 10 seconds, every week.
From Me To You
Now that you know the two main factors limiting you from lasting hours, I will include something very special. I have written a few things about multiple orgasms, and I will personally teach you, through this article, how to achieve multiple orgasms. There was a time in my life, not too long ago, that I was wanting to last longer in bed. I would last a good hour or so, nothing to be ashamed of, but I wanted more. That's when I discovered multiple orgasms. You can have all the orgasms you want, but no ejaculation, and when you choose to ejaculate, you can. It is truly extraordinary, and will help you in your sex life, and your partner will be ecstatic. This will bring you closer to your lover. To be multi-orgasmic, you need to understand that kegels are very important. Without a strong PC muscle you just CANNOT do it. In order to achieve multiple orgasms you have to know where your limit is. If you pass the "point of no return", no matter what you do, you will ejaculate. Timing is CRITICAL. If you are too late, you will ejaculate, if you are too soon, you will need to kegel again, which could mean you ejaculate as well. Yes, that's probably boring information, but you need to know it in order to achieve multiple orgasms. Now, on to the goods. Start off with masturbation. You don't want to try this having sex for the first few times, because you need a good feel of things. You have to be able to rate the intensity of your feelings. While masturbating you need to say "this feels like a 6" or "this feels like a 1". 1 will be almost no arousal...10 being the point of no return. When you get around a "7", stop masturbating until the arousal subsides to about a "5". Continue masturbating when you get to this point. When you get to an "8", stop and let it subside to a "6". When you get to a "9", stop and let it subside to a "7". Now, this is where it becomes a little tricky. You will be at a "10" really soon, and you DO NOT want to reach this point. If you do, all hope is lost this time...you will ejaculate. Continue masturbating until you get to a "9.9". You should feel like a few more strokes and you will set off. At this point, squeeze your PC muscle as hard as you can. Keep your eyes OPEN, and take very deep breaths. Keep the PC muscle clamped, keep your eyes open, just a little longer. It might feel like you missed your orgasm, or you may feel a slight or full orgasm. After a good 15-20 seconds, release the kegel. You should still have an erection, and you should NOT have ejaculated. Depending on your timing, you may see a slight semen-like fluid, but that is OK. You've held off your ejaculation. Your arousal may be at a 1 at this point. Continue masturbating, until you are about to ejaculate again, and this time, ejaculate. Congratulations!! You've just had a multiple orgasm!! Next time you will know how to have a multiple orgasm, and you can have as many as you want! You will be the alpha male!!!
In conclusion, you have all the information you need right here on this page. You will never have to worry about premature ejaculation again. All it takes is dedication, and a little bit of work, and your sex life will be changed forever. This is not a quick fix, this is permanent. Stick with your kegels and remember everything I have told you, and you will be a better lover, and you will know that is what your mate is thinking. Good luck!
The Mack Daddy of CC,
Oldie.